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Mar 08, 2012, 11:19 AM
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Sometimes I imagine that a girl I'm viewing in porn (I'm a woman myself, btw) is my old therapist. Idk why I do this... any words of advice?
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Mar 09, 2012, 05:11 PM
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Has anyone else done something like this?
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"Just as a jewel that has been buried in the earth for a million years is not discolored or harmed, in the same way this noble heart is not affected by all of our kicking and screaming. The jewel can be brought out into the light at any time, and it will glow as brilliantly as if nothing had ever happened. No matter how committed we are to unkindness, selfishness, or greed, the genuine heart of bodhichitta cannot be lost. It is here in all that lives, never marred and completely whole."
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Mar 09, 2012, 05:29 PM
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I always feel rotten when I make a post and no one responds.
To answer your question: no, that's never happened to me.
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Mar 09, 2012, 05:45 PM
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No, but i do have fantasies about my old T. Ikn i guess it' s transference . I just really liked him, he was kind, and he understood me whe a lot of T s even dont. Funny thing is he is a lot like my bfriend. Patient and understanding. My bfriend does get me better than
urrent T sometimes. Other times he' s just a regular guy. They all are i suppose. Even the Ts. :-) |
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Mar 09, 2012, 09:30 PM
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I have a thing about Jon Stewart, and would regularly fantasize about him. However, at some point, I mentioned this to my best friend, who pointed out that our mutual therapist looks like Jon Stewart and the whole erotic transference thing just blew up for me. I had to stop thinking about Jon Stewart during sex altogether.
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Mar 09, 2012, 10:47 PM
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Now if you can control your sexual fantasies, MKAC, that is your secret super power. Someone drawing my attention to the taboo would just make the fantasy all the more irresistible to me.
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Mar 09, 2012, 10:58 PM
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I have serious, serious, intimacy issues, Snuffle. The thought of sex with someone that I am that EXPOSED with emotionally is seriously upsetting, so the thought of sex with my therapist freaks me out. |
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Mar 10, 2012, 12:38 AM
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Gotcha. It's the intimacy, not the taboo, that made it unappealing. Understandable.
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Mar 10, 2012, 11:47 AM
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Have the same "problem". I can only dream about ppl who aren't in my life- though John Stewart won't do it for me.
 Otherwise it becomes too real - more a sexual nightmare than a fantasy. |
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Mar 11, 2012, 02:12 PM
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autumnleaves, i have done this. i just didn't want to admit it. i'm highly ashamed of the porn thing and the fantasy thing...don't want anyone knowing about that..big shame. don't know what it means...just a turn on to me. real shameful to me, the whole damn thing. i admire you for having the courage to put it out there.
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Mar 11, 2012, 06:46 PM
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I didn't use to let myself even have sex fantasies, because it felt uncomfortable to me somehow.....now, a few maternal sort of fantasies here and there, yeah....but then last year I started having odd thoughts and feelings and fantasies about the lady who was my T then. she isn't now, that ended rather badly, but in the last couple months I find myself having fantasies of her, or if I use my toys, she comes to mind, or if I do watch porn, I think of her.....sometimes I find it irritating/shaming to have her in my mind in that way
 , but then sometimes I just think, oh well, I don't see her anymore anyway, so it doesn't really matter.....like it's become safe or something. I don't know.....
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