[White Christmas]

I need help from those who have been there or are going through this now.
My friend who is in therapy for 2 years (same therapist) states, "I am in love with "T" and he shares those feelings for me."
I have said: you are paying $2 a minute to talk to him. Why are you asking how he is doing? Why are you paying him to hear about his grandmother? This is a pretend friendship. You pay him to be "the girlfriend" to listen and give advise. When did you start wearing makeup to therapy session? Do you consider this a date? Are you sabotaging your marriage so you can keep going to therapy sessions with the "real man"? What is the incentive to improve your marriage when you can get your emotional needs met by your therapist"
Facts along with this: 1. she has called him at home. He said his wife knows about this. 2. Her husband doesn't know how much money she has spent in therapy. It's outside insurance, although she could submit them in. 3.Friend said that her therapist doesn't want her to see another therapist because he knows how hard it would take my friend to "trust" another person and he "knows" her so well. 4. He also said that medical world know looks down on his "relationship therapy" style and "they" just want to cure a person in 6 weeks and get them out the door. 5. He also told her that he wouldn't know how he would handle it if one day she came into office and said that their marriage was good and they were having "great sex". 6. Friends has told therapist she is in love with him. 7. Therapist said he has feelings for her but he would never leave his wife.

QUESTION: What more can I do talking to my friend? Do I tell the friends husband? Do I report therapist to medical board? (or is that only allowed from a patient?)

[Paraclete]

There is not anything you could 'report' at this stage - until a therapist actually violates a boundary, and acts on the feelings confessed - there is no misconduct.

[nicoleflynn]

I am concerned as to why you seem so involved in her business (said respectfully). The only person who can report unethical behavior is the client.

Why would you say anything to her husband? Inserting ourselves into another person's relationship, is usually always a disaster.

You can be a friend simply by listening. She will need to, if interested, do some research to figure out what is really going on in the therapeutic relationship.