[Screenager]

Hey everyone.

So, yeah... I've had feelings for my T for a while and I've been wondering if she can tell. I used to think it wasn't that obvious, but I've been acting more nervously around her lately, which she noticed and mentioned. I knew she was professionally trained of course, but I didn't expect her to read these rather subtle signs of insecurity, and it made me wonder if everything else is obvious to her as well and she's just not talking about it.

So, what are your experiences? Has your T maybe even confronted you with your feelings?

[scorpiosis37]

So I hear people say things like "T can always tell" but I don't believe that's true. I had feelings for my previous T and I'm fairly certain she never picked up on them. When I finally told New T that I had feelings for Old T, she said that was a complete surprise to her. She said that from hearing me talk about Old T-- and from talking to Old T about me-- she never picked up on my feelings. So, in my case, it seems Old T was in the dark-- and New T wasn't any better! I actually WISH they had been more attuned to my feelings so I could have processed them with Old T as they were happening or, at least, with New T right after I switched.

[CantExplain]

Originally Posted by Screenager

I knew she was professionally trained of course, but I didn't expect her to read these rather subtle signs of insecurity, and it made me wonder if everything else is obvious to her as well and she's just not talking about it.

My uninformed guess is that she will pick up on the insecurity, but won't know what you're insecure about unless you tell her. Insecurity could be anything.

[openmind0722]

Mine knew way before I spilled the beans - in fact, his inquiring about it way back when was what prompted me to be honest and tell him........

It is VERY hard - I left my first indication of feelings for him on his VM on a weekend when I knew he was not there - so nervous for the mtg after that when I saw him and we discussed it.

Today, years later, we live together, are in the final stages of divorce and are just living as a couple - but it was an arduous road to get here.

In reflection when we do speak of our time when I used to be a patient, he always knew much of what I was going thru WELL before it happened - esp if the T has been in practice for many years - they are well trained for any sign, subtle or not.....

Hang in there and know we all went thru this!

Originally Posted by Screenager

Hey everyone.

So, yeah... I've had feelings for my T for a while and I've been wondering if she can tell. I used to think it wasn't that obvious, but I've been acting more nervously around her lately, which she noticed and mentioned. I knew she was professionally trained of course, but I didn't expect her to read these rather subtle signs of insecurity, and it made me wonder if everything else is obvious to her as well and she's just not talking about it.

So, what are your experiences? Has your T maybe even confronted you with your feelings?