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Mar 13, 2013, 01:31 AM
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My therapist and I had a bit of a flirtatious thing going on when I had sessions with him. It's been a few months since I've seen him, and he's closed his practice for financial reasons since that time.
I still have a few things of his that I'd like to return to him. When we talk, he often contacts me at night (after a few drinks, apparently) and invites me to his house, stating that his wife was working and he has the house to himself. Despite the previous flirtatious relationship, I wouldn't feel comfortable with putting either of us in a situation for anything inappropriate to occur. I also wouldn't want him to get the wrong idea of meeting up. I'm not really sure how to approach him with the idea of meeting somewhere PUBLIC and neutral to give him back his things. |
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Mar 13, 2013, 05:15 AM
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Just wondering if you have somewhere you could just send his stuff to, some address or other, then there's no contact at all.
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Mar 13, 2013, 09:36 AM
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Can you suggest that you meet for coffee at the busiest, brightest coffee shop in town?
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Mar 13, 2013, 11:00 PM
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Put the items in the mail. What items specifically do you have that belong to him? I can see this is about to turn into something that will land you in counseling for the next 20 years. His conduct is indicating he want a personal interaction with you that his wife is unaware of. Red FLAG!!!! Do not do it!
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Mar 16, 2013, 07:10 PM
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Something doesn't sound right so I agree with the red flag idea. I have a rather casual relationship with my therapist and he lives nearby so I have been to his house (only during a real emergency). But even though there was some flirtation initially that was worked out. Now our relationship is very clear. Without that clarification, I wouldn't feel comfortable at all with your situation. Just send stuff to an address or drop it off on his driveway. And let it all go. They are really warned against doing anything that would confuse boundaries so he shouldn't be doing stuff like that at all.
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Mar 17, 2013, 02:20 PM
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Red flag
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Mar 17, 2013, 04:06 PM
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Don't like it at all. Mail it or if you really have to meet him bring someone you trust.
Also raising a red flag... 
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