[Mactastic]

I'm not saying it doesn't happen, but I have yet to hear one story of a man falling for his male therapist. A woman falling for her male T makes sense. A woman falling for her female T also makes sense, even if she identifies as heterosexual. But I have yet to hear of a male client having transference feelings for his male T, regardless of if he identifies as hetero or homosexual. Does this makes sense? Why do yo think this is?

[doyoutrustme]

I have read here and online about men falling in love with their therapist. And not scarcely. I think it happens to both genders about the same amount.

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Men's sexuality is more visual. Women's is perhaps more emotional. I know that's in general, nothing is 100% black and white.

[CantExplain]

Originally Posted by Mactastic

I'm not saying it doesn't happen, but I have yet to hear one story of a man falling for his male therapist. A woman falling for her male T makes sense. A woman falling for her female T also makes sense, even if she identifies as heterosexual. But I have yet to hear of a male client having transference feelings for his male T, regardless of if he identifies as hetero or homosexual. Does this makes sense? Why do yo think this is?

I think you may be talking about attachment here...

I am a man and I have never felt a passionate attachment to a male T. I was passionately attached to Madame T but not so much to other female Ts.

[RTerroni]

I'm sure it does happen from time to time.

[Petra5ed]

From what I've read it is most common between a female client and a male T, IMO this is because women are more often turned on by men in roles of authority, whereas men prefer to be dominate. That being said it happens to both men and women, to either gender of T's. I have this theory that because men are more into sex and women into the emotions and sex, a lot more male clients will disagree that they have erotic transference and say/think they just have a run of the mill sexual attraction. I also bet that hetero men that feel ET to their male T's are way less likely to talk about it than a woman attracted to a female T, since we all know women and women are acceptable and hot even, where as no straight man ever wants to be associated with anything gay.

[Lauliza]

I know male patients feel attraction to their T's but transference is different. Like Petra said I think they're less likely to acknowledge these kinds of feelings. Men are less likely to seek out therapy in the first place, and definitely don't go for psychoanalysis as much as women, where the stronger transference takes place. I might be stereotyping, but I envision many men go to therapy specifically to find a solution to a problem and usually not much more.

Originally Posted by Lauliza

I might be stereotyping, but I envision many men go to therapy specifically to find a solution to a problem and usually not much more.

That's why I went but my female T never understood this.

[Rzay4]

That's a very good question, I'd be interested to know as well.

[Lauliza]

Originally Posted by Lycanthrope

That's why I went but my female T never understood this.

That makes total sense to me but I think many T's do not understand this (I am a female studying to be a T). I will remember to keep this in mind when I have male clients.

[purplemystery]

Maybe men experience transference, but in a different way from women. Perhaps for a lot it's less intense and emotional? I'm not sure, but I only say this because thinking back to high school, there were certain male teachers that I know that guys were drawn to and had feelings of transference for. I could just tell that they looked up to a particular teacher and liked the attention he gave them. But it seemed like a role model thing, and less of an intense, complex attachment.