[Sad&Bipolar]

I stopped seeing my therapist because I am so in love with him. He, of course, is professional and ethical and let me know nothing could ever happen between us. This made me feel upset and more depressed. Now I am seeing a new therapist, but I still have strong feelings for my former therapist and can't get rid of my thoughts and feelings for him. I have wanted to talk about this for a long time but never had a safe place to do so until I found this site today. I really feel like I am going nuts. I have not gone into any detail with my current therapist about my feelings for my former therapist. I am wondering how much I should talk about with my new therapist.

[Mactastic]

The only way out is through, in my opinion. I chose to work through my erotic transference with my T rather than through someone else. So far it's been really freeing and healing. I think you should have many conversations about your feelings for your old T with your new T.

[Sad&Bipolar]

Originally Posted by Mactastic

The only way out is through, in my opinion. I chose to work through my erotic transference with my T rather than through someone else. So far it's been really freeing and healing. I think you should have many conversations about your feelings for your old T with your new T.

I did have many talks with the former therapist. I saw him for 12 years. The feelings have grown a lot over time to the point where it was no longer a therapeutic tool, but an interference in my daily life. I have now just begun seeing a therapist who was actually my case manager 13 years ago when I was in an outpatient partial program. Knowing this person from my past made the transition from the therapist with whom I am so in love much smoother. The new therapist even knows my former therapist. But if I am trying to quell the thoughts and feelings, I feel the less said to my new therapist the better so I can start to concentrate on my wellness and not dwell on what kept me from progressing in therapy in my recent past. Does this make sense? I suppose I can bring up the topic at next week's visit and get some feedback from my current therapist. Thank you so much for replying and your suggestions. I hope you are hurting less as the day goes on.

[Cherubbs]

I have wanted to talk about this for a long time but never had a safe place to do so until I found this site today. I really feel like I am going nuts.

Welcome aboard you are in much the same place as many of us. It's far more common than you might think and yes, the best course of action at least from what I've seen here is to cover the subject with your current therapist, if you possibly can.