Boob hugs?

Hugs in therapy are a charged subject in their own right... what about boob hugs? You know, a full frontal hug with a woman with big boobs where she presses her boobs into the mans chest. Is it bad to boob hug your T? Should you A-frame or side-hug instead?

I don't know what an A-frame is but I think side hug is OK. Depending on the content of your conversation.
If you think your therapist has nice breasts and you want to rub up against them that is probably inappropriate. Unless she is a sex therapist of some sort. Maybe even then.

I didn't understand the question but in my thoughts hug is when you press your body close to his/her body. I don't have big boobs so I don't know If he didn't hold me tight it's not hug in my opinion.

It raises questions to me! Why the need for hugs at all. I know it is a loving gesture but if you question it. Then why do it at all. Tell her you don't feel comfortable with that. You can try a side hug. I have never attempted that one but I am sure it's doable. Just keep your balance and don't accidentally slip onto her.
BTW- It's called a boob hug? Interesting choice of words!
Good luck!

I remember when I was in College and someone who I previously had a class with (and who I thought hada very nice set of boobs) came up to me at a sporting event wanting a hug all I could think of was- this is my chance to press up on those boobs and I ended up hugging her very tightly for at least ten seconds, I think that very early on she realized what I was trying to do.

Wonderful thoughts, to bad it didn't turn into a romance!
Tell me ladies boobs or breasts? I use the latter! and of course the ...s!

I personally don't like the word "boobs". It sounds coarse. The word "breasts" is clinical and more acceptable to me. I don't like anatomy words anyway, though my T helped me a lot with that problem.

I think it depends on the relationship between T and client, as well as the motivation behind the hug. With my T, there is no romantic interest; our relationship is platonic and perhaps a bit maternal. So, for me, it feels very natural to hug her. I 'be never thought of it as a "boob hug" but I suppose you could call it that. We both have fairly large breasts, so I suppose they are pressed against each other. But that certainly isn't the motivation behind the hug. For me, hugging my T is a way of expressing gratitude, love, and affection-- as well as receiving comfort, support, and nurturing from her. Unless the hug is tight and close, it just doesn't feel like a hug to me. I don't think it's inappropriate unless the client (or T) sexualities it.

I have large breasts, and I never really thought about the fact that they press into people when I hug them. Its unavoidable really if its a front hug. I have never hugged my therapist, but I would like to though

I've hugged Madame T face-on. She didn't recoil.

What's an a-frame? I'm guessing it's a front on hug without a body press . . . so from the side it looks like the letter 'A' . . .

Yes exactly. I've always A frame hugged men on account of my big girls. But now I realize it sucks because it's not a full hug. What if I full on hug, I wonder if this will come off as weird, since the only difference would be my boobs basically.

This thread...lol. So many thoughts racing through my mind. My T and I are the same height and both female so it makes hugs interesting. Come to think of it, I'm not sure I'd be able to tolerate more than a quick hug outside of a really intense and emotional situation, when boob touching doesn't matter.

That's why I'm happy we do silly things like fist bump most times.

I dislike that word boob(s); the original meaning is someone who is an idiot.

Here's a picture of my favorite kind of boobies!



Blue Footed Boobies!

I'm 6ft 2 and whenever I hug anyone I nearly poke their eyes out with my boobs.

I think that if they want a full hug than you should give it to them.

BTW we can still feel boobs even durring a side hug (sometimes even more than on a full hug), I know from doing it during photo opportunities, I remember when I got my photo taken with someone who had just won a pagent that I could "feel" that her boobs were fake during the side hug.

Ribcage-to-ribcage doesn't bother me, but that also brings you pelvis-to-pelvis. And I was a little concerned about that.

It all depends on what the person likes, everyone is different, I am really hoping that the hug that I get from my outgoing Therapist at our final session together (3 weeks from now) will be a full frontal one.

I read this and thought you know, boob probably isn't the most PC term. I grew up in an offensive household, LOL. Boob was a kind word, better than "tits" so growing up I thought boob was the least derogatory. If I say breasts (nice ring to that), then I also should probably say penis and vagina as opposed to **** and vejayjay. I just haven't hit that maturity level yet.

Done! You inspired me to boob hug at the close of my session last night. Nothing was said.

I read on the internet that pelvis touching pelvis is a big no because it sends sexual messages. I suppose logistically if you're a guy those sexual messages may be more obvious. I made sure to keep our pelvises out of it.

Remember the scene in Will and Grace where Jack and Karen lifted their shirts to touch bellies? THAT was insane! I am pretty much by default a belly hugger. One time one of my bosoms got pinched under his arm in a hug, and i was like, "look, i can ignore my bosoms cuz im crazy, but that doesnt mean you can!" And he has been more considerate since then.

This is an interesting post about all different kinds of hugs that I am finding rather amusing

It's totally amusing and funny in one way, but in another way it's serious and interesting right! I found this site with info on how to analyze the hugs you get http://howtodidyou.wikispaces.com/Analyzing+Hugs. I'll never A-frame someone again unless they gross me out and I don't want the hug anyways.

I never like to do anything besides the full body hug.

Oh, interesting. I've never thought of it like this - I have reasonably large breasts but I'm not aware of them 'pressing into' people when I hug them. Even when it's a romantic partner, unless it turns into kissing and subsequent fun stuff then I'm not aware of my breasts in a sexual way at all.