pregnant...

please just report him.

If I'm honest when you mentioned my country I started to feel paranoid that my exT will type my country and therapy in google, find my posts and recognize it's me. I'm sorry, when I don't take meds I am more paranoid.
Anyway thanks.

I told him about my pregnancy. I had a feeling inside me which tortured me all the time saying that I have to tell this to him.
He was shocked and sad, he asked me- why didn't you tell me this before.
I asked him is he mad and he said no, he said he is really worried, he asked me many questions about my health, meds etc.
He said he will visit me at my home and help me with money.
Yeah and he won't leave his wife and I would feel guilty if he left his children.
I didn't believe he would be that nice to me. Now I'm really confused, maybe everything is not that bad as it seems, I even feel little bit happy now. I see he cares, I see he feels guilty.
I'm trying to think about good things and to forget things that hurt me.

Now I feel paranoid about posting about it, I just wanted to let you know that I'm better and I think I will delete this thread after all not to fear about it.

Thank you all.

Oh sweetheart, my heart goes out to you, it really does.

What you have said above (about him arguing that you seduced him) is categorically not true. Even leaving out the whole therapist-client power imbalance and ethical implications, any man who argues that he was 'seduced' in this situation is talking bullsh#t, I'm afraid.

He made a choice. You did not force him to shag you. Men are not, as the patriarchy often suggests, poor little lambs to the slaughter of wicked women out to seduce them. He is not ruled by his d*ck, he made an active choice to be unfaithful to his wife, with a vulnerable adult, because he is a pathetic excuse for a human being.

He is opting out of taking responsibility, and trying to put it all on you.

I am glad it went ok, melania. I was going to comment on what he said about you being the one who initiated the affair, because it made me REALLY angry, but I've had my hands full with, indeed, a little baby who was sick this past weekend.

I hope those words were spoken out of guilt and defensiveness, and that he continues to be supportive of you and the baby. However, please try to stay grounded. I hope you are telling your current T about all of this. This is a complicated situation. He may very well change his tune, especially if his wife or any colleagues find out about you and the baby -- those words he spoke about it being you who initiated the sex are not the most courageous, and I wouldn't be surprised if he reverts to that attitude, as stupid as it is, if he gets caught. Just keep doing what is right for the baby.