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Feb 26, 2015 at 12:01 PM
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Feb 27, 2015 at 09:04 AM
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Thank you all.
I think I just want peace right now, I'm avoiding from my former T, I'm not ready yet to talk about my pregnancy. I know that someday I should do it. When we had conflict, my T told me that it was me who seduced him and me who wanted sex with him, he didn't initiate it. Yes, he is not innocent and I'm not innocent too, it's our both responsibility but I worry he would think that it was my plan to get baby from him to make him stay with me which is not true but it looks like that. |
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Feb 27, 2015 at 09:07 AM
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Feb 27, 2015 at 03:19 PM
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Feb 28, 2015 at 04:16 PM
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 ). Side note- our teacher could tell who wrote which essay without us signing it.Plus here there is the L1 transfer in play- could be the other poster was from Lithuania too (or Latvia- sister languages if I remember it correctly  ). Or I just saw a similarity where there was none 
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Feb 28, 2015 at 04:25 PM
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Feb 28, 2015 at 08:52 PM
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Feb 28, 2015 at 09:00 PM
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I told him about my pregnancy. I had a feeling inside me which tortured me all the time saying that I have to tell this to him.
He was shocked and sad, he asked me- why didn't you tell me this before. I asked him is he mad and he said no, he said he is really worried, he asked me many questions about my health, meds etc. He said he will visit me at my home and help me with money. Yeah and he won't leave his wife and I would feel guilty if he left his children. I didn't believe he would be that nice to me. Now I'm really confused, maybe everything is not that bad as it seems, I even feel little bit happy now. I see he cares, I see he feels guilty. I'm trying to think about good things and to forget things that hurt me. Now I feel paranoid about posting about it, I just wanted to let you know that I'm better and I think I will delete this thread after all not to fear about it. Thank you all. |
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Mar 01, 2015 at 06:28 AM
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What you have said above (about him arguing that you seduced him) is categorically not true. Even leaving out the whole therapist-client power imbalance and ethical implications, any man who argues that he was 'seduced' in this situation is talking bullsh#t, I'm afraid. He made a choice. You did not force him to shag you. Men are not, as the patriarchy often suggests, poor little lambs to the slaughter of wicked women out to seduce them. He is not ruled by his d*ck, he made an active choice to be unfaithful to his wife, with a vulnerable adult, because he is a pathetic excuse for a human being. He is opting out of taking responsibility, and trying to put it all on you. __________________ Been trying hard not to get into trouble, but I I got a war in my mind ~ Lana Del Rey How many cares one loses when one decides not to be something but to be someone ~ Coco Chanel One is not born, but rather becomes, a woman ~ Simone de Beauvoir |
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Mar 03, 2015 at 09:32 AM
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I hope those words were spoken out of guilt and defensiveness, and that he continues to be supportive of you and the baby. However, please try to stay grounded. I hope you are telling your current T about all of this. This is a complicated situation. He may very well change his tune, especially if his wife or any colleagues find out about you and the baby -- those words he spoke about it being you who initiated the sex are not the most courageous, and I wouldn't be surprised if he reverts to that attitude, as stupid as it is, if he gets caught. Just keep doing what is right for the baby. __________________ Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about. |
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