Feels like I have broken up with a girlfriend who was never in love with me at any stage.

The initial therapy term ended today, and although I have the option to continue i don't think I will. On one hand I liked therapy and I think it was helping me, but I also felt sort of trapped in therapy, like I wanted to leave, or that if I wanted to leave I would not be able to.

I'm not too sad about it, but I do want to see her again. She's awesome and I want us to hang out or go to the movies together.

[RedSun]

Toilet, I'm so sorry.
It's good that you're not feeling trapped now though. And maybe the erotic transference itself was quite smothering, so that will bring it's own relief?
Can you ask someone else to the movies?

Originally Posted by Red75

Toilet, I'm so sorry.
It's good that you're not feeling trapped now though. And maybe the erotic transference itself was quite smothering, so that will bring it's own relief?
Can you ask someone else to the movies?

I liked the transference. The feeling of being trapped I think comes from my social anxiety and the nervousness that comes with it, otherwise I think I would've felt comfortable in therapy.

I have joined some meetup groups and am planning to go to the movies with them. They are strangers at this point. Meetup.com

[Petra5ed]

Toilet - first off sorry for your loss. I'm sure it's tough mourning the change.

Originally Posted by Illegal Toilet

On one hand I liked therapy and I think it was helping me, but I also felt sort of trapped in therapy, like I wanted to leave, or that if I wanted to leave I would not be able to.

I think to some extent it's supposed to feel that way. Jung said it was a process of individuation like a parent raising a child, and at a certain age the child wants to grow up and stand on their own basically. It is a kind of ambivalence really, you both want the security and comfort, and at the same time feel weighed down by it.

I know you know this already, probably from life experience... but you will get over this therapist with time and it will be less sad. You have the option to continue if things ever get so bad that's something!! Better than being terminated right!

Anyways, congratulations on finishing what sounds like a successful therapy.