[CriesAndGoodbyes]

Hello one and all, this is a thread I am starting for myself and others, if they wish, to share things that occurred in therapy. Of course, this is only for those that want to share. There are no obligations to share and everyone is welcome to comment on the things that I share. Please... please comment on the things I share, lol. I'm desperate for input. I figure that I will probably be the most frequent, if not the only poster in this thread, for a few reasons. One, because I understand that therapy is a private thing and most likely, there isn't much to share. And Two, because I am probably the only person here, who is therapy daily. (5 days a week) - I am in intensive therapy, which is 4 hours a day, 5 days a week. So I have plenty of things to post in this thread.

It's mainly for anecdotes, thoughts or occurrences from within ones therapy session, that... well... strike us... as... awfully counter-transferency. So I'll basically post random things in here that usually give me the false hope that T loves me, lol. Anyone is welcome to comment or join in. Hopefully this can be a fun thread for all... and if not for all, that at least for me, lol. I'll start.

So today in therapy... T and I spent a great deal of time just chatting about regular things and goofing around, like we usually do. Today's topic flavors were music, a common one that comes up. Bless his heart, he's offered to send me another music play list. We have all the same taste in music. Today we were discussing this one music artist that I just introduced him to today. He loved the sound, said it was raw and right up his alley. I had mentioned not once but twice, a certain part in the song that I loved. As I was playing it on my phone and then because he liked it, he played it on his phone after me. So we heard about half of it, twice. And wouldn't you know it, mere minutes later, he brought up loving a certain part as well and when he played the part he loved, it was the same part as me. Yikes! Part of me wonders, either he loves it, like I do... which is amazing because it means we're drawn to the same things. OR the sinister, naughty part of my mind goes... "But does he really love it? Or did he tell you he loved it, because he knew you did... (from minutes earlier, where you said you did.) and really he is just faking it to have that in common with you... which must mean he likes you!" - lol, I know, I'm a bit crazy. He doesn't like me. Wishful thinking.

We also discussed movies, as we frequently do. He always recommends movies for me to watch and then when I watch them, we usually spend a bit of time at the next session talking about what I thought of them. Today was fairly uneventful when it comes to "signs" - but none the less, figured I'd share.

[dtrain0802]

My T and are I are a lot like this.

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There is thread for this in the main psychotherapy forum called In Session Today http://forums.psychcentral.com/psych...ion-today.html

[dtrain0802]

Originally Posted by BunYip

There is thread for this in the main psychotherapy forum called In Session Today http://forums.psychcentral.com/psych...ion-today.html

Oh, no! There's more than one thread on the same topic... Whatever should we do?!?

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Originally Posted by dtrain0802

Oh, no! There's more than one thread on the same topic... Whatever should we do?!?

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This is a specific sub-forum, so unless you want to say today in therapy we made out and ****ed the other one is more appropriate. Plus it takes up server space.

[dtrain0802]

Originally Posted by BunYip

This is a specific sub-forum, so unless you want to say today in therapy we made out and ****ed the other one is more appropriate. Plus it takes up server space.

I'll keep that in mind, pal.

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[frackfrackfrack]

Many months ago, my T did tell me that he was attracted to me. We didn't talk about this much, instead mostly focusing on my feelings about him. So I am always looking for signs he still likes me. It's harder for me to tell because he is now more careful about showing the more obvious signs he was giving me before.

Last session at some point he looked at me a little dreamily and did this thing where his lips part a little bit that makes me think he is thinking naughty things. And then he quickly shifted his gaze to a point on the wall to the left of my head and stared fixedly at it, breathing..... measuredly. Don't know how else to describe it. I tell myself that that is his technique for getting his emotions back under control. This whole sequence happened twice.

[WrkNPrgress]

Originally Posted by BunYip

This is a specific sub-forum, so unless you want to say today in therapy we made out and ****ed the other one is more appropriate. Plus it takes up server space.

I think this thread is perfectly valid here.

So I'll basically post random things in here that usually give me the false hope that T loves me, lol. Anyone is welcome to comment or join in. Hopefully this can be a fun thread for all... and if not for all, that at least for me, lol. I'll start.

This part makes it pertinent to this sub-section. It's not for general session stuff but specifically transference/countertransference moment with in session.

I like the idea of having a thread within this section for just passing observations that don't necessary need to be deconstructed. It feels awkward to start a whole new thread based on "My T smiled at my joke, then touched her face.... I almost died.."

[WrkNPrgress]

I suspect many good T/client relationships have moment of unfiltered affection passing back and forth. For the most part, I would think it'd be a natural thing to feel affection for someone who tells you their story week after week. How could therapist do their job well if they didn't feel something, concern, care and admiration on some level for their clients?

I can specifically recall two moments off the top of my head that felt like My T didn't just respect me but kinda 'liked' me; None of this is to say she actually is attracted to me. I just think or feel that she might find me attractive. There's a difference. I find lots of people attractive, that doesn't mean I actually want them or have any intentions towards them at all. And suspecting I might be 'attractive' to someone else, of course, is something I have to be able to feel in myself first. I'm not a supermodel or super-ego at all but I've just enough self-esteem to know 'that look' from people who have found me attractive and/or flirted with me in the past. I can say that much at least on a surface level.

[junkDNA]

i dont have erotic feelings for my T and i know he doesnt for me, but one time he adjusted "himself" while standing ... i dont know if he saw me see him do that or thought i wasnt looking but i looked away and felt like umm wtf dude

[CriesAndGoodbyes]

Yes Bunyip, this is specifically for moments that make people think their T loves them, likes them or is attracted to them or other behaviors or moments that seem to cross beyond the therapist/client relationship and venture into the personal, close, friendship/romantic zone. It definitely fits here and if I go to the general one and post about how my T told me I deserve to be made love to, no one else in the general thread is going to get where that sent my mind. Because... well... it's general for a reason, they are not dealing with being in love with their T or with wondering if their T likes them and/or wondering why their T says or does really intimate things that seem to cross out of the realm of therapy. Thanks for your input though.

WrkNPrgress, Thank you so much for your reply and I am so glad you understood the purpose I had for this thread. Because you're right, it seems silly to start a brand new thread for things that are relatively small but frequent occurrences that make me love my T more or make me question what he really feels for me. Like in the case of today, nothing overt but most definitely some questionable things.

So today in therapy... My T told me he just stumbled on an all acoustic version of the "Jagged Little Pill" album by Alanis Morissette and he decided he'd play me some tracks off the album so I could hear it. I was a big fan of the original album but had never heard the acoustic one. So I told him "If you're going to play any, it has to be either "Right Through You" or "Not The Doctor"." And then he played me both and out of the blue told me those were his two favorite tracks on the album. *Swoon!* And to that I wonder.... Why, oh why T... Do you always tell me and make sure I know just how much we have in common? I keep telling him he is my musical twin. It's funny.

And then we were also listening to some comedy songs in session. Crazy, funny comedy songs with highly sexual and inappropriate titles that I am not sure I could even say in this forum. He played me a few new ones I had never heard before and I played him a couple. - Yes, we listen to a lot of music in my sessions. We must have spent about an hour listening to music today.

And then he was telling me about this new house he is buying and he was telling about some technical difficulties with his mortgage and he was sharing with me his enthusiasm and unbridled joy at the thought of furniture shopping. Which led into a very fascinating discussion about Solid Oak Furniture and Mango Wood Tables. Where I asked him whether or not he could build any furniture and he confessed to having trouble even hanging a shelf, lol. Though in his defense, he said he has since gotten good at hanging shelves, lol.

I love when my T tells me about his personal life. I've been hearing about his home buying journey since day one and I love the new developments. Honestly, it's stuff like that that makes me feel like we're more than just therapist/client. I mean... does anyone else chat about their therapists personal life in session? How much do you guys know about your therapists? I mean... I know like tons about my therapist and his personal life.

[junkDNA]

Originally Posted by CriesAndGoodbyes

Yes Bunyip, this is specifically for moments that make people think their T loves them, likes them or is attracted to them or other behaviors or moments that seem to cross beyond the therapist/client relationship and venture into the personal, close, friendship/romantic zone. It definitely fits here and if I go to the general one and post about how my T told me I deserve to be made love to, no one else in the general thread is going to get where that sent my mind. Because... well... it's general for a reason, they are not dealing with being in love with their T or with wondering if their T likes them and/or wondering why their T says or does really intimate things that seem to cross out of the realm of therapy. Thanks for your input though.

WrkNPrgress, Thank you so much for your reply and I am so glad you understood the purpose I had for this thread. Because you're right, it seems silly to start a brand new thread for things that are relatively small but frequent occurrences that make me love my T more or make me question what he really feels for me. Like in the case of today, nothing overt but most definitely some questionable things.

So today in therapy... My T told me he just stumbled on an all acoustic version of the "Jagged Little Pill" album by Alanis Morissette and he decided he'd play me some tracks off the album so I could hear it. I was a big fan of the original album but had never heard the acoustic one. So I told him "If you're going to play any, it has to be either "Right Through You" or "Not The Doctor"." And then he played me both and out of the blue told me those were his two favorite tracks on the album. *Swoon!* And to that I wonder.... Why, oh why T... Do you always tell me and make sure I know just how much we have in common? I keep telling him he is my musical twin. It's funny.

And then we were also listening to some comedy songs in session. Crazy, funny comedy songs with highly sexual and inappropriate titles that I am not sure I could even say in this forum. He played me a few new ones I had never heard before and I played him a couple. - Yes, we listen to a lot of music in my sessions. We must have spent about an hour listening to music today.

And then he was telling me about this new house he is buying and he was telling about some technical difficulties with his mortgage and he was sharing with me his enthusiasm and unbridled joy at the thought of furniture shopping. Which led into a very fascinating discussion about Solid Oak Furniture and Mango Wood Tables. Where I asked him whether or not he could build any furniture and he confessed to having trouble even hanging a shelf, lol. Though in his defense, he said he has since gotten good at hanging shelves, lol.

I love when my T tells me about his personal life. I've been hearing about his home buying journey since day one and I love the new developments. Honestly, it's stuff like that that makes me feel like we're more than just therapist/client. I mean... does anyone else chat about their therapists personal life in session? How much do you guys know about your therapists? I mean... I know like tons about my therapist and his personal life.

i know a great deal about my Ts personal life... we have a lot of similar conversations that you have with your T. but i see it as purely platonic.