[growlycat]

I probably have two phone sessions left with Sparky my ca therapist I moved for work out of state and have to give up my t of three years. I had terrible erotic transference for the guy and I think we were both pretty aware of it. He was very ethical and it's not a line I would cross either. We never spoke of it but we had moments where I think I was obvious despite my efforts to push it waay down.
I think it would have been better if we had talked about it and how to resolve it and get to the other side with mutual respect and caring intact with no crossed lines.
I feel like it is painful and unresolved and I have only two sessions left. Part of me says it's too late leave it alone. Another part of me needs to know if he was aware and what his thoughts are.

Any ideas? I don't want to end a good relationship on an awkward note

[growlycat]

Not saying he was attracted to me in any way I pretty much doubt it

[unaluna]

Imo, erotic transference is not really much different than other discrete occurrences of transference. Kinda Like how dreaming about sex isnt really about sex but a symbol for something else?

I had the same et for my last two male ts. Prev t - clueless in handling it. Curr t - awesome. No lines or boundaries crossed with either one. Right im not counting hugging!

So bringing it up now seems like a doorknob confession. Otoh, he knows you well enough that maybe he can give you some good doorknob insights. They CAN be succinct sometimes when backed into a corner. But if et is still there, its a symptom, a nugget! still to be worked out.

[frackfrackfrack]

Yes. I think it will be better than always wondering about it later. And you may get some insight.

[junkDNA]

did you tell him?

[growlycat]

I emailed him to say there are some awkward things I want to ask and talk about before we end. I'll keep you posted