[Hopelesspoppy]

I've been in & out of this forum for a few years and just want to offer some encouragement to all who feel mired in the matrix of confusing therapeutic relationships. I had it bad, I was in love - he started coming on to me after only a few weeks and it went on for 15 years. I dodged a huge bullet, I did not engage in physical sexual activity- though he tried, thank God I had enough sense for that. He congratulated himself for the fact that we had not gone down "the slippery slope". WTF. Anyway, in my case I moved away - which I know is not an option for many. There were occasional texts between us, initiated by me, but they waned away with time. I am scarred but thankful that, despite the "highs", it is over. I honestly thought that, as he frequently told me, we were "stuck together for life." He was my confidant and had many qualities that I really appreciated - in fact one of my best friends has now been seeing him, at my suggestion, for years. But he is a classic narcissist - brilliant yet immature, evolved yet primal, and at 70+ years as horny as a 15year-old. Not my proudest moments, but he filled a void for a time - time that was ultimately wasted. My message is, to all, yes, you can do it and yes, it will get better. Namaste.

[husband_traveler]

It looks like you survived (and also your patient), but handling that was vary hard, also after the end of the therapy.

a question: in such cases, isn't a good idea to have a supervisor?
Did you go through that?

[magicalprince]

So awesome that things are getting better for you Hopelesspoppy.

I'm over my unethical ex therapist as well. I don't miss her anymore. It did get better for me too.