Not sexually or romantically, just so hard to explain.

I once gave her a hug. Then after realizing that it was inappropriate. I felt really passionate about telling her why I did it, but apologized instead over the phone. She told me it's OK and she could see that I was in a really good mood that day, but she said I was "all over the place" and I have to see her tomorrow, but....I hate it when I can't find the words to describe how I feel.

I know she's married with children, but she's like the type of friend I would have had, in the past.

I probably won't get a response tonight, but I'm starting to get anxious about the whole appointment tomorrow morning.

Oh whatever, I'll buy her some flowers.

[coolibrarian]

I suggest that you NOT buy her some flowers. Just talk about it.

Originally Posted by coolibrarian

I suggest that you NOT buy her some flowers. Just talk about it.

I know. But logic doesn't seem to do it for me. I want to be friends. She told me that it's OK if I stopped seeing my usual doc, and yes she said, "you're always welcome here and I will be more helpful than my regular.
...damn
OK thanks. No flowers. I promise. But idk

She's younger than me. By maybe 10 years tops?...

[mcl6136]

Originally Posted by 2ISAB

She's younger than me. By maybe 10 years tops?...

You would 't be obsessing, would you?

[Deejay14]

As a woman I can tell you to think twice about the flowers. You can even tell her you were maybe thinking about that, but to actually do it could send the wrong message.

[Lemoncake]

Having positive feelings for your T is perfectly normal and not all touch is inappropriate, some therapists are okay with hugging others not, go with what works for you but keep talking- you'll find the words.

Just talk about it with her, don't get her flowers though, as others have already said

Originally Posted by Lemoncake

Having positive feelings for your T is perfectly normal and not all touch is inappropriate, some therapists are okay with hugging others not, go with what works for you but keep talking- you'll find the words.

Yeah. That's how she made me feel, the hug was only one Mississippi..

Originally Posted by Deejay14

As a woman I can tell you to think twice about the flowers. You can even tell her you were maybe thinking about that, but to actually do it could send the wrong message.

I really did want a female opinion. But I'm not sure how to make her happy. Like she has made me feel..but thank-you kindly.

Originally Posted by mcl6136

You would 't be obsessing, would you?

Why i oughta...lol not obsessed, like I said, she's married with kids. Some things are out of bounds. Or should I say Boundaries. But I'm not going to rule it out...the being obsessed about her bit. Cool

[coolibrarian]

Originally Posted by 2ISAB

Yeah. That's how she made me feel, the hug was only one Mississippi..I really did want a female opinion. But I'm not sure how to make her happy. Like she has made me feel..but thank-you kindly.

Your goal in therapy is not "making her happy." Your goal is finding relief from whatever drove you to therapy in the first place.

[Lemoncake]

Originally Posted by coolibrarian

Your goal in therapy is not "making her happy." Your goal is finding relief from whatever drove you to therapy in the first place.

I was going to post the same thing. The focus of your therapy is you not her.

Originally Posted by coolibrarian

Your goal in therapy is not "making her happy." Your goal is finding relief from whatever drove you to therapy in the first place.

touché

But I feel obligated to warm up to her. But all roads lead back to a big nope for the flowers. Even though it's in my nature to IDK.. brighten up her day.

OMG! I think I'm obsessing over her.

Last year I got in contact with an old female friend, to ask about one of her friends.. girls hate that business. I learned that the hard way. After all, it was shah long story and it's now 6:20 in the morning. I believe I'm gonna be a pain in the butt if I keep going.

Confirmed: No fricken flowers, I'm obsessing.

Btw, Hillary is dead.

I'm changing back to the US voice recognition because the AU one is giving me more work.

I was going to leave it at that because I laugh at my own jokes. The correction is; "chivalry is dead". Lol

[RaineD]

I got my therapist flowers a couple weeks ago, and he liked them. It took me a year to get up the courage to do it though.

[Moment]

I think it's fine to have warm feelings towards your therapist.
Her marriage is besides the point--the fact that you guys have a therapist/client relationship is the boundary that can never be crossed.
But it might be useful to think about...what is it about her that you find so appealing? This can be a clue about what might be missing from your other relationships and other parts of your life. Then you can use that info to help you find that in the real world, in relationships that aren't out of bounds.