[sabby]

Some of you may know, but for those who don't, my 11yr old grandson has been in the state hospital childrens ward since last Friday night. He's been having a horrible time lately with lashing out, having fits and attacking school administrators and even going after a student a few weeks ago. When he gets like this, he has very little memory of it and absolutely no control over it.

This child is an absolutely wonderful boy when he is not in one of his breakdowns. He is loving and caring, funny and absolutely brilliant. It breaks our hearts to see him struggling with his mental illness. He's been dx'ed with Bipolar, ODD, OCD and PTSD. He's been having delusions and paranoia as well. In the past 2 1/2 years he has lost 2 very dear men in his life, his father to a horrible car accident and his Uncle Gary. He is really struggling with those losses and God only knows how much that plays on his mind from day to day.

I'm asking for help with good thoughts and prayers for him, his mom and his team at the hospital and his team from the mental health agency.

He is such a bright spot in my life and my heart aches and cries so much for him.

Thanks to all who read and respond.....I really appreciate it.


sabby

[DancingAlone]

ohhh sabby, i'm so sorry. he sounds so much like my nephew, who is my heart, my beautiful curly haired boy with a heart filled with so much love and compassion. he is a good, kind, 30 year old man now, but so many years of hurt, pain, confusion and suffering from mental illness; schizoaffective, ADHD.

but there's so much more hope now, so much more help available, the medications are better, there are more programs available. it also sounds like he is surrounded by love and i am so glad he especially has you in his life.

may i offer my support and love and a prayer for him and all his support team to see him through and for him to be at peace again very soon.

[sabby]

((((((((((((((( Dancing Alone )))))))))))))))))

Thank you so very much!

He is the first of 3 grandsons and I had him all to myself for 10 years before the other 2 were born. He and I have a very special bond for which I am forever grateful for. He is so bright.....so very smart and I sit here crying and wondering will he ever be able to use his intelligence to make a good life for himself, or will his illness forever be his nemisis?

Again, thank you very much DA

[DancingAlone]

dear sabby,
please dry your tears dear sabby, although i know those tears, my sister and our family have shed quite a few over the years. but i can assure you, from my dear sweet nephew's experience that although there will be struggles as your grandson finds his way, as long as people (family, friends, professionals) are proactive in his life, yes, he does have an excellent chance at a good life.

my nephew, instead of having to drop out of school, was able to attend specialized high school classes on an outpatient basis in the mental health facility where he also spent many an in-patient stay. he was greatly cheered and many a tear were shed in pride as he was able to receive his diploma at his original high school on that very special day.

jobs were hard for him (he has been on medicaid and disability for a long time now, and has battled with that search for medications that work the best for him) but he found parttime work at times through friends of the family who would pick him up and bring him home...things such as construction and work with his hands in manual labor that didn't require concentration and allowed for the "bad" days.

now he is living in a group home for adults in Miami, Florida. he is able to help some with the other people living there and has made good friends. we all miss him dearly of course, but i can call and talk to him and know that he is safe and protected. and he is happy.

so please try not to worry sabby, although i know you will . the world is changing now and there will always be a place for him where he will be able to have a good life and be safe.

[eskielover]

Sabby,

Prayers for your grandson & for your whole family....for guidance into the right places for the right help that is necessary to provide him with the help so that he can live a life able to achieve success with the talents & intelligence that God has given him.

The world of Psych has grown so much & learned so much in the way of helping the more challenging problems & the whole world in accepting those who do struggle with mental illnesses.

Know it's a hard road to walk trying to get it all figured out.....with God as the guide along that path, the end result will be a successful one.

Keeping you all in my prayers

[(JD)]

For clarity and healing.

PTSD at his age, not knowing I presume it's from the family deaths... since he's having dissociative episodes, though they could be part of the PTSD, perhaps he's more split off than from that (PTSD) and has a dissociative disorder to help him cope with life? That would explain much of what you shared, and possibly negate the bipolar disorder dx as well. (In which case if they are medicating for bipolar disorder, could cause a bigger problem.)

for grandma to have the right words and thoughts she wants.

[darkpurplesecrets]

((((sabby)))))

I know how hard this is for you and for your family. I am praying that God will give you, his mother, your family, the doctors, and his team all the wisdom that is needed as you all face this. That they will find what works best for him and that he will be okay.

My heart goes out to you and I know that you love him so much and that bond with him will only grow as he grows. He is a wonderful boy and very intelligent like his grammie.

Please allow yourself to feel what you are feeling as it is okay and know that you are not alone in this. God is walking beside you and him and all involved. Know that your friends and those that love you are here for you also.

I am sending continued loving thoughts and prayers everyday for you, your grandson, his mom, your family, and his team of doctors and his team from the mental health agency.

That bright spot in your life will only get brighter and your tears will turn into joy abundant. Always.

dps

[sabby]

Thank you very much (((((((((( eskielover ))))))))))))

You are so right about God being with us on this path. I just hope that we are able to see the doors that are open for my grandson and that we have the courage to go through them.

[sabby]

(((((((((((((( (JD) ))))))))))))))

Thank you so much for posting. I really appreciate your thoughts and prayers.

Grandson was dx'ed with PTSD about 5 years ago. He has had a bit of a rough life. He's seen his mother arrested and handcuffed and taken away by the police on two occasions, he has seen his mother and father in knockdown drag out fights, and he was in an auto accident that he perseverated on for a long long time. I also just found out that his psychiatrist wonders if it's possible that he was molested. We believe it's possible but he will not confirm that right now.

Your idea about him being dissociative has piqued my curiosity now. It's like a loud gong just went off in my head. Being so close to the situation, I hadn't though of that idea, but it's possible you may be on to something here. Thank you very much for bringing it up. I will make sure to discuss it with his mom and doctor tomorrow.

Again, thank you (JD)!

[sabby]

My dear friend ((((((((((((((((((( dps )))))))))))))))))))

Thank you so very much. I so appreciate you and your steadfast support for myself and my family. They appreciate it too!

I'm trying to allow myself to feel the emotions and to cry when I am alone. I've always been that way....can't cry much in front of people.

You are 1/2 right......he is very intelligent, but he's more so than his grammie! I'm not putting myself down here, I just know that he is one very bright young man!

Thank you again my friend.....