[EagleNebula]

What's your take on this?

I personally do not agree. Even if I did believe in a god ... I think society/humans are overwhelmed all the time with the supposed things "god" gave us he thinks we can handle. Where do we turn, or where does our brain take us .. addiction, mental illness, workaholism and all the other "isms."

Any thoughts?

[tinyrabbit]

I think what people can handle and what they should have to handle are two different things, and this is therefore a singularly unhelpful statement. If people have free will, you can't dismiss abuse as God's will, and it just makes me mad when people say that.

[Kelti]

Let me repeat this once and for all!!! God does 'not' hand out problems period. That is not His nature. God is a loving and forgiving God, an example to follow for healthy spiritual fitness. If you do not believe in God, then you are just guessing at God's personality, what He will do for you, and what He won't do. Like I said He does not pass out problems, issues that HE thinks we can handle. He does NOT work that way. I hope you invite God into your heart today. If you need help understanding the Diety of God, please PM me and we can talk if you would like to.
Kelti...

[LovelaceF]

To me, this statement is meant to be encouraging. I think, if taken in the right light, it could help people believe that they DO have the strength to make it through whatever hardship is happening in their lives.

[-jimi-]

There are babies born just to starve to death. Could they "handle it"? Doubt it.

Frankly, I think it is another platitude that frustrates the h*** out of me when I am in the middle of trying to sort through something traumatic. It is a thought-terminating cliche for me.

[Permanent Pajamas]

I really hate this expression. God gave me much more than I could handle. That's why I tried to kill myself four times.

I found out then what a failure I am. I couldn't even get that right.

[Red942]

Permanent Pajamas no matter what you have killing yourself aint a solution.
2 years ago I was in complete mess, failed in education failed in everything, no money no personality, even our house was gonna take away from us and I was gonna become homeless and much much more.

Still have most of this problems, but never ever blamed God about my failure or anything happened to me, I blame myself because when I in need to take action and fix my problem I just ran away and hide.

Regards

[Permanent Pajamas]

I blame God. He has been very mean to me my entire life. At the beginning of my last crash he was a complete *****. Now he won't STFU.

[Red942]

Do you believe in God to blame him ?

[hamster-bamster]

Originally Posted by Rose Panachée

Frankly, I think it is another platitude that frustrates the h*** out of me when I am in the middle of trying to sort through something traumatic. It is a thought-terminating cliche for me.

I hate platitudes in general, too.

[Red942]

If you think you are made from nature, what's the difference between us and animals ?
Who have the power to decide what is wrong and what's not ?
No one is trying to convince you how good God is, but I don't think who got a messed up life is God's fault, it's their fault because they never took action to prevent it.
I am the first one to be blamed because I had the chance and never took it.
Don't blame God about what you don't have, it's your fault.

To me if there is no God Whenever I had the chance to steel and get away with it I will do it.

There is no rules what do I have to give a ****,

I hate it when people try to convince me how great and good god is ... He can't be all that great and good if he has the power to stop all the evil from happening, but chooses to let it happen anyhow.

I mean, come on ... Free will my *** ... It might have been my mother's free will to rape, beat and brutalize me (an innocent child), but I can assure you it wasn't mine ... !!!

Just a bunch of BS if you ask me.



ps. If you care to read my take on forgiving your abuser so you can heal, read my post (#38) on this thread ...

http://forums.psychcentral.com/survivors-abuse/268045-forgiving-your-abuser-4.html#post2928814

[hamster-bamster]

Good post, Pfrog, thanks.

[tinyrabbit]

"No one is trying to convince you how good God is, but I don't think who got a messed up life is God's fault, it's their fault because they never took action to prevent it."

Oh I see, so I should have taken action not to be born into my family, and everything that has ever happened to me is my fault? Thanks for that, really compassionate thing to say on a forum where many people have survived abuse and trauma.

But you say "what you don't have" is "your fault". Are you kidding me? I'm reporting your post, it's just offensive.

[Hellion]

Well maybe it makes sense in the context of such a belief, but to me it doesn't as I don't believe in a particular god or being that would be in charge of the universe or whatever. It seems life can certainly give one more than they can handle.

[possum220]

I think its a platitude that gets hurled at us when others have no idea what else to say.

[LipsSewnShut]

It's just a platitude to help people cope in dark times. Not my thing, but whatever gets others through is nothing for my to stick my nose up at!

[-jimi-]

It's meant to tell you you might be stronger than you think. In that way it's not meant to hurt, but tell you you can fight a little more. Which often is true. When you run and think you can run no more, you usually can run longer. Just not indefinitely! That is where I think the saying goes wrong, because some are actually pushed too far. Some actually can survive and do, when they think they can't.

Humans are resilient but everyone has a breaking point.

And no one lives forever. So far it's never happened.

[venusss]

I think it's meant as comfort. As in "you will get through it".

I mean, what else should be said? "In your place I would kill myself"? "Oh how horrible, your life is over"? "There's no way you will make it"?

[Pikku Myy]

I have twisted this saying to read as following " Life never gives us more than we can handle" .... however, I too feel like I am rolling in one of those lotto maschines with uncertain outcome

[pegasus]

Well, I have to say I don't like the saying. It kind of insinuates that you have to believe in God and trust that 'He' won't give you too much to handle and if you don't believe in God then what? Also I don't like the saying because there are so many people that get struck down with all sorts of awful things that IS NOT THEIR FAULT and there is nothing they can do about it. A child that gets struck down with incureable cancer for example, what the heck! How is that fair and then to say, oh well God doesn't give more than you can handle. That saying doesn't validate any feelings and actually is totally UNTRUE!

yeah and people i know who share the same beliefs as I do don't have to be alone. i have to walk alone to my classes without anyone accompanying me. I have to be alone most of the time. I'm sick of being the only one who's going through this. at least some people have someone to wait for them or are allowed in a big group. Not me, whatever my religion, others will always see me as an intruder when i hang out with those a**holes.

[BeeKeeper]

You know, I believe in a god, and I believe that there is a certain amount of balance in the energy of the universe between good and bad, light and dark. But, some people have a lot more on their plates than others and sometimes you can't deal with it all by yourself. And I don't think a deity has anything to do with who gets what.

That platitude makes me feel guilty for needing help or for not being able to fix a problem. It's not for me.
But, hey, I guess if it helps someone, then so be it.

[Pikku Myy]

Just to be very basic with the meaning... I believe it notes not to give up hope