[psyco123]

Hi alll,

i have a question that has been wandering in my mind for years....

i know my question is silly ...so far people are fed up or unable to explain me..

1. how will i know whether i love myself?
2. how does love feel like? whether we love others
3. my mom says that i dont love myself hence i have poor social adjustments and depression and behave weird.

i dont know what to do .. i do pray earnestly to god.. to reach the answer and to tune myself into a fine person.. but from childhood onwards i have been a person who belives people blindly and help them to the core.. but i have always been emotional and hurted . people use me and then behave unknown or strange.. so i have always felt that no one likes me...

if my message is silly then please ignore or else please if someone can give an answer...

love u all.

[Pinem'e]

Loving yourself means that you value yourself and take care of yourself.
We take care of things that we value.
If you are taking care of yourself and your responsibilities, it means that you do love yourself.

If you value others more than you value yourself, you will be taken advantage of by people who love themselves more than they love you.

You need to learn to not "cast your pearls before swine" and only have people in your life who truly love you.

Many people just do not have the capacity to love and care for others. Those people are self-centered.
They see other people as objects. They "use" other people instead of valuing them and caring for them.

They may even fool themselves and you into thinking they love you, but they always have a selfish agenda.
There is always something they want from others to complete them because they are lacking something in themselves.

They may have affection (not love) for others who serve a useful purpose, but that affection will turn to apathy and even contempt if a person becomes no use to them.



I hope this helps a bit.

[Webgoji]

I can't really answer 1 or 2, but from my experience love feels something like this:

Love is a mind that is concerned with the happiness and freedom of others. Ergo, when you are feeling love, there will be a sensation in your body (normally the center of your chest, but sometimes in your head) that feels like a happy kind of pressure. This "pressure" will be goading you into doing something that promotes the happiness of another person, like giving them a compliment, gift or helping them with something they are doing.

FYI, this isn't like a high blood pressure kind of pressure, it's just the sensation of the emotion. It isn't like the smitten feeling we get when meeting someone new either, that's an increased blood pressure due to excitement. Love feels a bit like a combination of happy and wanting to help.

[(JD)]

Unconditional regard.

[psyco123]

thanks to all my wise friends for ur lovely suggestions.... what ASB'el told is pretty much true.. but even though i know the facts i always fall into pit and become the prey..bcoz i am an emotional fool..i dont learn from my falls.again and again repeating same mistake...



thanks to all

[Pinem'e]

LOVE IS UNCONDITIONAL (fear is conditional)
LOVE IS STRONG (fear is weak)
LOVE RELEASES (fear obligates)
LOVE SURRENDERS (fear binds)
LOVE IS HONEST (fear is deceitful)
LOVE TRUSTS (fear suspects)
LOVE ALLOWS (fear dictates)
LOVE GIVES (fear resists)
LOVE FORGIVES (fear blames)
LOVE IS COMPASSIONATE (fear pities)
LOVE CHOOSES (fear avoids)
LOVE IS KIND (fear is angry)
LOVE IGNITES (fear incites)
LOVE EMBRACES (fear repudiates)
LOVE CREATES (fear negates)
LOVE HEALS (fear hurts)
LOVE IS MAGIC (fear is superstitious)
LOVE ENERGIZES (fear saps)
LOVE IS AN ELIXIR (fear is a poison)
LOVE INSPIRES (fear worries)
LOVE DESIRES (fear Joneses)
LOVE IS PATIENT (fear is nervous)
LOVE IS BRAVE (fear is afraid)
LOVE IS RELAXED (fear is pressured)
LOVE IS BLIND (fear is judgmental)
LOVE RESPECTS (fear disregards)
LOVE ACCEPTS (fear rejects)
LOVE DREAMS (fear schemes)
LOVE WANTS TO PLAY (fear needs to control)
LOVE ENJOYS (fear suffers)
LOVE FREES (fear imprisons)
LOVE BELIEVES (fear deceives)
LOVE “WANTS” (fear “needs”)
LOVE versus fear: What do you feel?
~ Sarah Nean Bruce

[Pinem'e]

A person walking in love (walking in the light) has no fear whatsoever.

They certainly do not fear the darkness or the light
no doubts...no worries....
even when the shite hits the fan...
...and it always will

[alchemy63]

To me, love is having the understanding that the degree to which I harm another, in thought, word, or action, is the degree to which I cause myself harm. It is in this way that I can establish for myself the intention to be as kind as possible to others and myself. That is not to say that I will allow others to abuse me. Part of being loving is to show, by example, a healthier way of being than those who wrecklessly cause others harm, and, by considering my own, and others best health, I am being as loving as I can possibly be. I am often misinterpreted. I have to allow others to be in the place they are in. Clarity in my own mind helps to keep me centered despite others misunderstanding. Through caring and sincere dialogue, understanding is achieved.