See the Hope He Holds for you

Some time ago I had to sick for the help of a psychologist. This lady has invested so much in me, but not only she helped me with giving her time, knowledge, expirience, but she helped me see the hope God holds for me.
In these hard times, times of distress, loss, confusion, pain my coulselor continue to spoke words of hope to me. Would like to share some of them in order to encourage who ever might be in need of hearing it.

"That you will begin to see the hope that He holds for you. You still have much to grieve. Grieving is such an unpredictable thing. Just when we think we are making progress, then there it is again.... thoughts of Mike (the name have been changed in order to protect and respect the privacy of that person) and what might have been. If onlys... Those thoughts are normal. You are a brave person for entering into the grieving process. Many people choose not to grieve. Instead they live in denial that there is even a problem, and they deny the strong feelings they have. You have not denied either. You saw a problem and you are strong enough to face the strong feelings that surround that problem. I have seen you go through each of the five stages of grieving....
1) Denial. When we attempt to protect ourselves from the negative thoughts and feelings about our loss. There is usually a sense of powerlessness. We want to believe it is unreal, that it's not really happening. We don't want it to be true.
2) We protest by screaming within ourselves, "No!" And we become angry that it is happening.
3) We try to change the reality by what is called "bargaining". We try to bargain our way out of reality. We try to make it be different. We do everything we can to make it untrue.
4) We become depressed. We become depressed as we begin to face that truth that it is true. The sadness of the reality sets in.
5) We have moments when we accept the loss, and slowly the sadness does go away. The heart becomes available for new things: new desires, new attachments, new hope, and new energy.

Eventually the past will not affect the present, except in that we will have greater wisdom from the experiences from the past.
These stages of grieving do not happen in any specific order, and they can jump around for a while. We may go from one to three, to two and back to one, and then a moment of five, and then four. There is no predictable path. It moves around for a while. You are bouncing from stage to stage right now. That is normal. You will have more and more moments when you break through the sadness and experience a moment of hope and begin to see a brighter future."

Sincerely,