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rae.lynn88 · Aug 07, 2015, 12:38 AM

My mom told me my illness is "tragically beautiful" and I should write a book.
Nothing about this is beautiful?
She wouldn't understand though. She doesn't have to deal with this.

Aug 07, 2015, 07:34 AM

It's hard for others to understand what we go through But I don't think your mom meant any offense and maybe this is her way of trying to understand and cope, as well as help you cope. Heck, maybe we all should write books. I think not only could it be a fun project but very insightful for those that want a glimpse into our lives.

CopperStar · Aug 07, 2015, 10:05 AM

I must admit I do find my mental illness to be tragically beautiful, for multiple reasons. It's not beautiful in a stereotypical sense, though, and I think the tragic part is self-explanatory. There are so many things that I understand and feel as a result of my damaged, atypical mind. Ten ordinary lives likely don't contain as much experience as I have had in under 30 years of life. But in the end, all that wisdom is only for the person who experienced such things, it goes with them into the dark, it cannot be shared. Which might beg the question, "Was it worth it, was it ever worth anything at all?" I think the answer is very personal. For me, the answer is yes.

Sesiley · Aug 07, 2015, 11:00 AM

We could definitely write a book...

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Aug 14, 2015, 07:21 AM

not sure how many times ive been told i should "write a book". i personally dont think anyone would read it, very negative expirences. but, people do enjoy roller coaster dramas. HAHA.

Tsunamisurfer · Aug 14, 2015, 02:05 PM

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Originally Posted by rae.lynn88

My mom told me my illness is "tragically beautiful" and I should write a book.
Nothing about this is beautiful?
She wouldn't understand though. She doesn't have to deal with this.

I came across a novel called Finding Alice by Melody Carlson, which is both tragic (her schizophrenia was devastating) and beautiful (the people she encountered in her life and her healing experience were very touching). I love the hope that the book inspires for me. I think there is a place for people to share their stories at some time, even if they are at a point in life where they aren't ready yet. (I'm not ready to share my story with the wider world either, for the time being)

jaynedough · Aug 15, 2015, 11:23 PM

Did your mom say what she meant by that?

rae.lynn88 · Aug 16, 2015, 05:55 PM

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Originally Posted by jaynedough

Did your mom say what she meant by that?

I got offended and she said she meant it in the way that my illness is tragically beautiful. Then i stopped talking because I was angry with her for saying that.

rae.lynn88 · Aug 16, 2015, 05:56 PM

I think that it's really annoying for someone who has no idea what I'm going through and watches me struggle everyday of my life to say that what I'm going to is beautiful in anyway.
I'm not saying that I am against the idea of people writing a book about their illnesses. I'm saying that i found it rude that she watches me and how this is destroying me and has the audacity to tell me that it's beautiful

Aug 16, 2015, 09:29 PM

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Originally Posted by rae.lynn88

I think that it's really annoying for someone who has no idea what I'm going through and watches me struggle everyday of my life to say that what I'm going to is beautiful in anyway.
I'm not saying that I am against the idea of people writing a book about their illnesses. I'm saying that i found it rude that she watches me and how this is destroying me and has the audacity to tell me that it's beautiful

i get offended too when people tell me i should write a book. nothing about it is beautiful, not even the mania. having this disorder is hard. everything that seems easy to "normal" people takes extra effort on my part. i especially hated hearing growing up "you don't try hard enough". YEAH OKAY.

rae.lynn88 · Aug 17, 2015, 04:16 AM

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Originally Posted by smilesandcries

i get offended too when people tell me i should write a book. nothing about it is beautiful, not even the mania. having this disorder is hard. everything that seems easy to "normal" people takes extra effort on my part. i especially hated hearing growing up "you don't try hard enough". YEAH OKAY.

omg this is the same for me.
Like I even have to take a second longer just to talk because most of the time I can't think straight. I always hear like "oh Rae you should talk more!" "Why are you so quiet?"
And it's like, no one gives me the extra sec to finish a complete thought.
Just as an example.