How Do I Help Him?

My question is pretty serious to me.. I am diagnosed bipolar 2 mixed.. mental illness is every which way in the family, My mother-MDD, My grandma MDD, My Uncle Bipolar, My youngest of 7 brothers-OCD, the list continues.. Back to my question, I have a younger brother who has always had depression problems, the older he got the more unstable he became, in his late teens he started changing, at first I thought he was bipolar to.. but his was really different than mine. He talks to other people.. in his head, very paranoid, thinks everyone is out to get him, he is different. His change in moods is extremely severe. Sometimes he will be talking and everything about him is gone.. the look on his face is complete emptiness/blankness, like his soul has left his body, its kinda scary, i always tap him on the forehead to get him to come back, he usually dont remember what we were talking about, He cant fit in anywhere we go, always makes a scene and people stare.. family talks about him like he is crazy. He is now 23, has had one failed relationship and a 2 yr old son. He has not been successful in holding a job, but his multiple personalities I wouldn't keep him working for me either, and I am very open about mental illness as I said I am Bipolar, He is severe .. something.. MY question is he is a young male with no insurance, no job, no address except mine. Other than me and my mother, the whole family has shunned him. He is currently living with me and my children, I dont believe he would ever hurt us intentionally, but sometimes when he is not him, I wander and I am very cautious of not making him the least bit upset. I have asked my psychiatrist and my therapist how to get him help with no insurance but neither could give me an answer. My brother needs help, I cant shun him, put him on the street, or pretend that he is ok when I know better. He has been emotionally hurt by so many family members and now has those issues also (which are pretty severe). I talk to him about the things he sees and hears and his stories.. and when i say stories I mean way out there couldnt have possibly happened but he really believes it. I never argue with him I just say ok and listen and sometimes go along adding to it. (not sure how healthy it is) I want him to have a sense of belonging.. I am scared for him everytime he walks out the house. My mother thanks me everyday for supporting him, but to be honest I barely afford to support my children and self, Im not 100% stable myself with my bipolar. I need to get him help so I can be sure 1) me and my kids are safe 2) not make myself sick worryin 3) because he is my baby brother and I know there is something seriously not right in his head, I would gladly give my ins up for him and deal with being an unstable depressed mess the rest of my life just to give him 1 day of saneness if i could. CAN ANYONE TELL ME HOW TO GET HIM HELP WITHOUT LOCKING HIM AWAY, HE DONT NEED THAT HE HAS HAD TO MUCH REJECTION AND EMOTIONAL HURT, BUT HE DOES NEED TO BE DIAGNOSED AND START TREATMENTS FOR WHATEVER HE HAS. he has agreed to go see a dr if i can find him help. he trust me (90% of the time) and after discussing it he agreed.. I NEED A DOCTOR TO SEE HIM!

I think you need professional advice. I hope this problem will be given the proper attention it deserves.

brook.

I to agree you need to seek professsional advice.

You shouldn't lie to him when he's trusting you with what he is experiencing. You have to understand the things he is experiencing are REAL, in every sense of the word. It just does not fit in with society and the 'normal' or 'simplistic' understanding of how things work.

He should apply to get Medicaid.

I understand that it is real to him. By far would I make him feel like what he is going through is no big deal. I Know it is and Im scared for him. Medicaid in missouri, they are *** holes. He is a single man with no income and no insurance. They wont give him medicaid until I get him diagnosed and file for disability for him. I dont know how long that will take, But I dont know how long he is gonna happen. He leaves for days at a time, I cant imagine what is going on and I know people look at him crazy. He comes homes with outrageous stories thinking he killed people and If you ask him there is a white car with 3 people in it that follow him everywhre!! only there isnt! he will tell me they are at the parking lot down the road from our house when i look out and tell him they aint there ... he says oh they must have just left. I talked to him tonight and told himthat I would go see my therapist and see if i could get him help. I quit goin and quit takin my meds.. but if I have to start again to help him I will. He never comes home and I havnt been able to leave my house in months.. we are so similar and so opposite at the same time. )-: together me and my brother are a very unstable pair!! lord help us

He will if you earnestly seek Him

I know how very difficult this is for you. are you talking about applying fot disability thru SS? It is easy to apply, It is a long prossess though waiting to see if you are aproved as they need all the medical proof. But in my state once you apply if your income is such and you are in need of immedient help you can applyfor and Get medical financial assistance (I dont remember what it is called)

There are also emergency apointments avaliable through the county mental health services. and other agencies. Have you contacted nami? they may have information on resorses in you area.

I will keep you in my prayers

Hello, I`m sad you are having a hard time with your brother and yourself. But why did you stop taking your meds? The will help you stay well to support and encourage your bro and also to care for yourself and kids. Also, have you looked into community health care? If your area has a mental healthcare wing of the regular community health care you could pay out of pocket and not use insurence. That could get you started. Also, like lil angel wings said check out NAMI, they provide support for families and individuals affected by mental illness. But most of all take good care of yourself and get support and care for yourself because you are needed to help your family. Good luck God bless