This will be laughable to some, but wealthy people and sophisticated ultra intelligent people are scarier to me than a junkie needing a fix.

A junky will give some warning before he or she does something harmful and as long as I am alert they aren't that dangerous.

I powerfull and sophisticated person will become offended and smile and quietly walk away and make a few phone calls and I'll be dead.

How can I make this fear manageable? Any suggestions?

[costello]

Originally Posted by brookwest

How can I make this fear manageable? Any suggestions?

That's a tough one. I have to say I doubt anyone would actually have you killed. I'm sure that happens but not too often. More often people use their power to inflict lesser kinds of hurt and pain on people. But it doesn't have to be sophisticated or ultra intelligent people. The world is full of petty tyrants who are given a little bit of power, and they use it make other people smaller so they can feel bigger.

My sister's bf was fired from his job at Target recently, for example. He wasn't accused of theft or anything. They were saying he was lazy. But they didn't have a talk with him and give him a chance to change or present his side. In fact he says that he wasn't even doing what they claimed he was doing. But no matter! He's out. They kept saying they had him on tape. It's kind of scary. They have some 25 year old kid working at Target on tape being "lazy," and they fire him without giving him a chance. It's like someone with a tiny bit of power decided they didn't like him, so they found a reason to deprive him of his job in this horrible economy.

It reminds me of years ago when I was enrolling my son in a children's class at the natural history museum. The office manager was one of those petty tyrants who took great pleasure in using her tiny bit of power to hurt people. Another woman walked in and said her son really wanted to take the class on bugs, but she couldn't afford it. She wanted to know if there was any scholarship money left over to help. They did have a little bit of scholarship money for poor families, but it was used up quickly. Instead of saying, "I'm really sorry, the scholarship money is gone," this nasty nasty person said something really mean and vindictive about how she couldn't kick paying customers of the class. You could see how much pleasure this creature was taking in trying to humiliate this poor mother - who did a great job of maintaining her dignity.

Those are the people who scare me. No one's going to try to have me killed. But might someone have me fired or whatever because they didn't like me? Could happen.

How do you deal with the fear? I guess the same way you deal with any fear: accept the fact that into every life a little rain must fall. And try not to be one of the petty tyrants. Try to be as kind and generous as possible. And remember the petty tyrants are unhappy, suffering people - otherwise they wouldn't act that way.

Don't know if that helps or not.

[Tsunamisurfer]

Originally Posted by brookwest

This will be laughable to some, but wealthy people and sophisticated ultra intelligent people are scarier to me than a junkie needing a fix.......

How can I make this fear manageable? Any suggestions?

I've been on the receiving end of such quietly calculating malicious people too. Fortunately not everyone who is either rich or very intelligent is heartless and vindictive. I'm also cautious around people who appear aloof or seem preoccupied with status. Unfortunately, because I wear my heart on my sleeve, by the time I have noticed anyone's aloofness, it is usually a bit late and they have already judged me.

At least there are some people I have been able to make friends with who I can be real with, and not fear underhanded treatment.

Thanks. I'm sensitive I guess. A tree being cut down gives me a sick feeling and nightmares. I'm in the wrong world.

[newtus]

psychopaths

I think I am making peace with this type, a little at a time.

The wars between the educated and the uneducated have been raging for a long, long time.

Thus the phrase, "rich mans war, poor mans blood"

Maybe I can't forgive right now, but I am willing to attempt to understand.

brook

For the kids sake...

[likewater]

Sophisticated people are just regular people once you talk to them

HEY! Newtus, that is totally inaccurate... While we sometimes like to **** with people, we usually don't bother until someone totally deserves it. It usually takes a lot more than just a weird look to warrant anything like that. And while most killers are psychopathic, most psychopaths aren't killers.
But it's nice to see you peeking out from your hole to post... Been a while!

I'm not a big fan of anyone with power, myself. And usually, at least in this ****ed up world, money is equivalent to power. You just flash a little bit of money around & you have people on their knees... So your concerns are definitely valid. But ONLY to an extent. People with money are more concerned about spending it than killing unsuspecting citizens, I'd think! Hahahaha but that's just my take on it.

[amity]

I would say befriend people who are more like you.There are all sorts of people in this world & we just cannot have a perfect tuning with all sorts ;but there is no reason to fear those we do not feel comfortable with.You will be happiest with those with whom you can be your natural self.
You may like to read this- http://jeeteraho.blogspot.in/2010/12...and-share.html

[likewater]

Killers give everybody a bad rep. If i watch one more lifetime movie where the killer has DID i'll puke.

HAHAHAHA true ****ing story, likewater!! I seriously laughed like hell at that remark. XD

[amity]

You are welcome my dear !