[lil-angel-wings]

My husband was gone for two days and I did not remember to brush my teeth or take my meds... He is going to be gone for 3 week soon and then what will happen? I'm not mad he's going to be gone. I'm not glad he's going to be gone. I'm just wondering how I'm going to manage, but I would never tell him that. I told him we needed to make a check list, but then I would probably forget to look at it and check things off.

Oh well every ones got issues.

[mimi2112]

It must be hard for you when your husband is gone. I seem to do the same thing when my mate is gone.. I don't forget to self-care.... it just seems when he is gone that I lack the motivation. It is somehow easier when he is here with me.

I find that when I do force myself as a discipline to do self care, that I feel so much better. Yesterday I forced myself to make an effort because I had to go into town and do errands. Once I got moving it wasn't so bad and I actually felt "normal" when I was interacting with people.

Maybe it would help to have a reward system for yourself for even doing these simple things. For example: sitting down to read a chapter in a book after you brush your teeth or wash your hair. I have had to bribe myself like that.

I hope it gets easier for you. Making lists is a good idea idea, maybe keep the list somewhere that you will see it a lot. I keep lists in the kitchen near where I make my coffee.

[faerie_moon_x]

I forget to look at lists and reminders, too. It's annoying. Even reminders that blink and flash often fall below my attention to them.

Maybe instead of a list put up sticky notes all over the house. Like "Wash your hands!" Right next to the toilet. Or "Brush your teeth!" On the mirror. Just an idea.