advice on moving

newtus · Sep 04, 2013, 08:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Gr3tta

Do you enjoy spending time with seniors newtus? I didn't know that. If you do, that sounds like a nice arrangement. Does the housing accept younger people? I hope so!

well its not a senior citizen place. its just regular apts. older people just happen to live there more than younger people or families becauze its close to the senior center of the city. you know. where they hang out n such. plus my mom knows an older couple who lives there already so i feel i would be kinda safe there. crimereports.com says in the past 30 days nothing has happened there and nothing around there. in the 5 mile radius or so.

Sometimes psychotic · Sep 04, 2013, 08:22 PM

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Originally Posted by newtus

im thinking about moving into a apt where a lot of older people live indepently becuz its near a senior friendship center

My building is mostly seniors...it's very quiet but harder to make friends, generally I like it though.

If you can afford to move there I say go for it.

newtus · Sep 04, 2013, 08:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Sometimes psychotic

My building is mostly seniors...it's very quiet but harder to make friends, generally I like it though.

If you can afford to move there I say go for it.

i may have to pay for the months in advance. 5000 of my ssdi check

:/ but thats life

faerie_moon_x · Sep 05, 2013, 10:30 AM

It sounds like you're doing well thinking things through and making plans. Paying in advance for your rent is a good idea because it takes the pressure off. If you sign a lease for only the months you can pay, then you know that if things don't work out you're not stuck there. It's always good to have a back-up plan in life.

mimi2112 · Sep 05, 2013, 10:48 AM

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Originally Posted by newtus

i was wondering if you guys thought i should still move?

ever since i got out of hospital ive bonded with my dad more and things have been so much better with him and i. and he tells me a lott he doesnt know what hed do if i wasnt here. i havent talked of moving since i was in hospital though. hes 66 buts hes not disabled or too old for anything so in reality its not like he NEEDS me for anything like if he had a disability. i just think hes sad. but i know i need him as much as he needs me too. for friendhship and support.

the only reason i wanted to move ACTUALLY was to get into some support groups that if i moved to the right city (richardson) and get in the edge of dallas and edge of collin county then i can go to some in a radius of me real close. radius of maybe 10-15 miles instead of being in 1 point and driving 35-50 miles to goto some. i have 3 picked out id like to goto. two ive been to before. and to make some friends. my age or even older is ok. maybe live in dallas county and goto their community college i can goto a richardson campus. which would be only maybe 15 miles away. i picked an apartment out already too. maybe get dallas county resources since they have more. maybe get into some hobby groups. etc. all that.

i kinda planned this out. like that. didnt plan financnes or anything further because im confused about moving and its not like my life here is bad and everything is provided. food and shelter and love. so theres no real reason to move except just opportunity is all.

I am so proud of you that you have done the research into these groups and the apartments. I believe you should move because it will help you. You are way too isolated.
I like SP's suggestion, I know you are concerned about safety, but if you make contact with members of these groups first, then you may be able to feel supported enough to try an overnight stay in a suggested motel.
It would kinda be fun and good experience.
I don't think you need to have a cosigner for a place. As long as you show proof of income and a bank account, that is all a landlord needs, to know you have a way to pay. One thing I did in the past to assure a landlord is to pay in advance a couple months, but that is if you are financially able. It shows commitment and stability.

Moving into a place of your own can be stressful, so I hope that you get those support groups in your schedule first, and like Cracking said, sit down w/ your Dad and write down a plan of action so you have a guideline to refer to if things go south.
I know you can do it, Newtus.

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