[faerie_moon_x]

Article about a study that followed kids from birth about bullying (for both victim and bully,) linked to psychosis as adults.
Childhood Bullying Ups Risk of Psychosis as Adult | Psych Central News

I was severly bullied, to the point of being suicidal. This whole thing that social media causes kids to be bullied and be suicidal is actually just throwing light on something that's been true forever. People just scoffed at the effects of being bullies."Just ignore them." Or "They are just jealous of you." Cop-out responses to people who do not realize that kids torture each other.

So... I find this article very interesting.

[Secretum]

That is interesting, but very sad. I'm sorry you were bullied. I was lucky not to have been (which is really a miracle, because I was a very weird kid in junior high/high school), and I cannot imagine what it must be like to be tormented everyday.

Stress is a common risk factor for most MI. It is interesting, the extent to which our environment affects our biology!

[DePressMe]

I was bullied too. It hurts and has long-lasting effects. I edit mental health news articles and the topic of bullying is constantly coming up. It's more prevalent that society acknowledges.

[faerie_moon_x]

I think fast paced news is the reason bullying has come to light as more than just a childhood annoyance. Bullies do real damage. Lifelong damage. It's a real problem and I'm glad it's getting real attention now.

[costello]

My son was also bullied badly, and I think it contributed to his current problems.

I do wonder, though, if certain children are more likely to be bullied. I remember talking to the mother of one of his bullies. She seemed to have a hard time believing her son would do something like that. She commented that another girl's parents had complained to her about her son a year or so earlier, but that that girl had later attempted suicide. She seemed to think that relieved her son of culpability. I'm not sure if she thought the girl was a flake who was lying about the bullying or if she was too sensitive? My thought was that her son had a sixth sense for vulnerable people, and he targeted them.

I guess my point is that perhaps people who are likely to go on to develop psychosis are also more likely to attract bullies. I don't know.

[worthit]

I was bullied to the point of stopping talking for 2 1/2 years. Traumatizing. I have PTSD from it now. Working with my therapist helps

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[faerie_moon_x]

Originally Posted by costello

My son was also bullied badly, and I think it contributed to his current problems.

I do wonder, though, if certain children are more likely to be bullied. I remember talking to the mother of one of his bullies. She seemed to have a hard time believing her son would do something like that. She commented that another girl's parents had complained to her about her son a year or so earlier, but that that girl had later attempted suicide. She seemed to think that relieved her son of culpability. I'm not sure if she thought the girl was a flake who was lying about the bullying or if she was too sensitive? My thought was that her son had a sixth sense for vulnerable people, and he targeted them.

I guess my point is that perhaps people who are likely to go on to develop psychosis are also more likely to attract bullies. I don't know.

I fully believe, 100% that yes, there is something different about me adn that made me a target. Because it wasn't like 1 kid and when that kid moved away I was fine. It was everyone, everywhere. Church, school, girl scouts, summer band classes, everywhere I went I had bullies and no sympathy and very, very few friends. And then even my friends were bullies in the end. I was even bullied by adults. I still am the target although now as an adult it's not so much bullying as you can just tell people avoid me. And, I even get this weird avoidance in online settings. It's not that visible on PC, this is the first place I find it's not as prevelant. But put me in an average online setting (like for a video game I play,) and I get the avoidance tactic from people. My husband says it's my paranoia but it happens far too frequently in multiple communities and there is proof of it (through the posts.)

There are good people. I am fortunate to have a couple of really good co-workers who are genuinely kind. But, there are a lot more who are either bullies, or those who just have that uncomforatableness with me. I read it right away in people. I have 2 co-workers who are "fake nice" to me but everything about them screams that if we were 15 they'd be putting notes in my locker about me being fat/ugly etc. etc.

[The_little_didgee]

I was severely bullied for 5 years because I was different. Being highly sensitive, literal and curious are what made me a target. I am from a very small town (pop. 1200) where almost all the kids at the one and only school would tease me. One particular boy wouldn't stop. He just kept on. ***hole. Eventually my mother enrolled me in a private school for girls in the city so I could get some relief.

When I was 12 I got really depressed and thought about committing suicide. I never told anyone how I was feeling because I figured they wouldn't listen. Nobody seemed to listen whenever I complained about the teasing so I figured there was no point.

"Just ignore it" is the worst advice a parent can give a child. It is invalidating and sends the message that a parent does not care about their child.

Growing up in a stable home did nothing to protect me from the negative effects. Nothing.

I believe this experience has contributed to my illness.

[Atypical_Disaster]

I was badly bullied the entire time I was in school, it sucked. I was bullied because I was very disturbed from a young age, weird, different, whatever.

[JoyDivision7680]

I have a long history of bullying that began in kindergarden and ended like last year. There still are a few idiots bothering me, but it seems I'm not the only one they bother. One bully that is still in business is my father, with whom I can't have a normal conversation because he would start throwing words at me.
My mother used to say it's better to ignore those at school, walk away or tell a teacher about them. I guess it was the first time when I wanted to say to her that she's an idiot, really. I still have fantasies about murdering the bullies in cold blood

[faerie_moon_x]

Ignoring doesn't help. People don't understand it. But, murdering is not the answer either. I'm not a bully so I don't know what goes through people's heads to bring someone down like that.

I remember one bully in particular who was named Robert. He was aweful, the worst one. He was in my math class and I used to wish my magical powers would hurry up and manifest so I could summon a rock golem to smash through the wall right behind his desk. I didn't want to kill him.... just scare the ***** out of him... litterally.... in front of everyone.... Yes, I was an odd kid.

Oddly, 2 of my bullies apologized to me while still in high school One was a girl who, with her boyfriend's help, attempted to murder her father. We were like 14 when that happened. She went to jail for a long time and senior year she came back. I saw her in the hall and she came right up to me and apologized. That was the only time we talked. The other was a boy who was friends with my good friends brother. We all would sit in the library together. He apologized randomly one day. It was very unexpected. Other than that, I've never received any apology or seen any of them again.

[JoyDivision7680]

Well, my theory is that bullies are either bullied/ignored at home by their close relatives, or they're just a bunch of insecure punks with low self-esteem and sadistic tendencies. And, of course, they might be just plain idiots.

Nice one with the magical powers Even though I would spend time in my room playing with my 'magic wand' for hours, the very first thing coming to mind when bullied was violence. Have them slaughtered, shot, burried alive, beaten to death, blow them up with a bomb, set them on fire, etc. And it's kinda strange considering I'm not a violent person.
I have never received any apologies, the bullies just disapeared. One of them actually died, and I felt really strange when it happened. He fell into a chasm in September while on motorcycle. He was 19 and had just been accepted to a college. I felt sorry (and guilty) a little...he wasn't even an 'active' bully.

I know violence doesn't do any good, I'm only thinking of it during moments of extreme anger. That's when I feel hate for every single person coming into mind, even my mother.

[rewin]

Thanks for linking the article!

I've been bullied since primary school as well as in my freetime at the church from the others. Only at the 4th grade (out of five) from highschool most of my bullies have been moved to a diffrent class - and I was sort of relieved.

My diagnoses is (as fresh as 2 months old) "Other schizophrenia" - because I coped with those enviroment in a certain way: I created for school, church, home, ... my individual personality and switched between them.

Wishing a happy christmas,

rewin

[costello]

Darn it! I'd typed out a long answer to this. I was almost finished, and I lost the whole thing.