My son has made the last step of his medication

Thank you, 8888an8888!

Oh, he's cramping my style already. :'(

omg costello why are you crying lol?

'Cause I'm hiding out in the bedroom from his loud tv show. And he left his dishes for me to wash. :'( :'( :'(

oh gosh. lol wow. it reminds me almost of the typical grown kids moving back in with their parents (not that this is a typical situation) but your comment reminded me of that.

i do hope things get better though - sincerely. i wish this wasnt going on for him. it makes me sad to hear hes going through this. im actually going through the same thing. although...of course my doctor didnt know i was off meds i was...i was doing so well for 6-7 months and then i just crashed. i was actuallt doing better than i have ever. and now im really not.

It's hard living with a person who just doesn't respond when you speak to him.

sorry costello

sorry to hear costello

This morning he was sitting on the couch, and I was in the kitchen chopping veggies for the chickens and goats. (The kitchen and living room are one big room.) I get up early every morning, and as soon as my feet hit the floor I'm moving - feeding and watering animals, cleaning the litter box, etc. I'm often late to work due to the amount of time spent dealing with my animals.

So, he asks me to get him a Dr. Pepper from the fridge.

Seriously? An able-bodied 30-year-old man - who does almost nothing to help around the house - is asking his harried, rushed mother to get a pop for him?

It made me mad, and we had a brief argument. And I didn't say 'good-bye' when I left the house.

Am I wrong here? Maybe I should have just calmly explained that I was too busy, but it seems like he could notice that. I did say I was too busy, but it was more like, "Have you noticed that I'm busy?" - said in a tone edging on anger. Then I added that I was going to be late for work. So, of course, he responded to that part: "It's not my fault you'll be late for work." No, it's not, but it also isn't a good day to ask me to wait on him hand and foot.

Sorry. I don't want to turn this thread into a gripe session about petty domestic squabbles. I'd hoped it would be available for people interested in go off meds. I just needed to get that off my chest.

i always make it a point to say goodbye to my loved ones even if i get into an argument with them and also personally "i love you". i always hear about people never seeing their family again after they get into an argument with a family member. like "yea then i got a call and heard they were in a car accident/murdered/had a heart attack" etc. i get scared...

I know. I thought about that when I was leaving, but I was still mad.

its ok costello.

He just called. He seems ok.

My son announced this morning he was ready to go home. I'm so impressed with how well he handled this. It's only been a week, and he's doing so much better. And he managed to come through this without losing his job, home, or car or ruining his credit or damaging any relationships.

I think he told his pdoc he wanted to go back up to 5 mg of olanzapine - so a lot higher than it has been for the last couple of years. I don't know if they'll start lowering that again, but he's 100% better now.

that sounds really good.
glad to hear he was able to go through all that hardship yet come over still fighting pretty much. he didnt lose anything. thats good!

that's awesome!!!!

That is really great.

I missed him and his cats when I got home last night.

so youre already missing him???

Yep, And he was only home for a week.

I don't know what to do. I think my son is not ok. He's back in his house but not back to work. I hardly ever hear from him. Almost no texts. Seldom calls. When he calls, we talk for maybe 30 seconds, then he says good bye.

I'm not sure what I should do. This has been going on for two or three weeks. I don't know if he's getting worse or better or staying the same, because I have almost no contact with him.

He's back to smoking. And he was out with a friend at a bar. This friend is an alcoholic who periodically stops drinking then goes back to it. At the bar the bartender refused to serve his friend anymore, and he (the friend) got belligerent. The bartender attacked his friend and beat him up. My son just took off and left his friend and drove home, because he didn't feel like he could handle the whole thing. It sounds like it was a really bad scene.

That was a week or a week and a half ago. I don't know if he's seen that friend since.

Anyway, it feels like he's making bad decisions, but I don't want to interfere just based on my fears. On the other hand, it's really not like him to not keep in touch with me. I sense something is really wrong, and I'd rather nip it in the bud.

Any suggestions?

Just let him know you're always there if he needs anything....maybe via text so it's not intrusive....

Ok. I sent that message, and he immediately responded, "Thanks," so it must have been the right thing to say.

Then I texted him, "Love you, son," and he responded, "Love you too, mom."

Earlier I texted him, "Hope you're ok." I think he finds that kind of thing ... idk ... like I'm worrying about him. Anyway, he didn't respond to that text.

Thanks for the help, Sp.

my mom goes thru the same thing w my sister. shes bipolar and gets defensive when my mom worries or expresses concern abt her not taking her meds. is there anyone your son talks to that you could talk to and maybe get information from them?? my mom has some of my friends numbers and talks to them when we suspect she is not well. then her friends try to encourage my sister to get help or take her meds. i dont really have any good advice ... but i understand your concern. i hope he reaches out to you soon

There's no one he talks to that I can ask. I thought about texting my sister to see if she's heard anything from him and how he sounds. If she'd heard anything odd from him, she'd have told me, I'm sure, but she might not mention if she were having perfectly normal interactions with him.

Other than that (my sister is his landlord), there's no one.