[BipolarBear32]

So I was just wondering if anyone else has a lot of social anxiety? I am not nervous in social situations, but my mind goes blank and I feel completely uninterested in what other people are talking about and I can't think of anything to say. It's like my mind goes totally blank and I don't even care or want to pretend to be listening. My husband and I had some friends over for an hour and the whole time they were talking I didn't have a thing to say. I thought this might be considered rude, but I still couldn't think of anything to contribute to the conversation and all I could think of is that they would hopefully leave soon. I find this happening to me more and more. Does anyone else experience this on a regular basis?

[StarSeedPleiades]

Yes! Yes yes yes, I feel the same way. It's frustrating as hell, I feel your pain. I don't know, I was really anxious about it growing up (from about ages 6-19), but after getting involved in a peer respite house a lot of my social anxiety has depleted. Now it's just a matter of my mind being blank and just generally not being interested and not being able to keep up with the conversation, or respond fast enough to stay relevent I guess. I don't know. My social skills have always been in the toilet, so maybe I'm not the best person to be posting a response.

I also think it's okay to feel this way. For me, personally, it signals to me that I just need some alone time. It might be weeks, even. I think it's okay to be uninterested in conversation and sometimes I feel there's too much pressure to be engaged all the time. I just don't think it's necessary.

Hope you're well.
--SSP

[ofthevalley]

I an completely socially inept. I suck at being with people. I always have but it's definitely gotten worse.

[newtus]

I isolate almost everyday. Im afraid of people. So i stay inside.

[BipolarBear32]

Originally Posted by StarSeedPleiades

Yes! Yes yes yes, I feel the same way. It's frustrating as hell, I feel your pain. I don't know, I was really anxious about it growing up (from about ages 6-19), but after getting involved in a peer respite house a lot of my social anxiety has depleted. Now it's just a matter of my mind being blank and just generally not being interested and not being able to keep up with the conversation, or respond fast enough to stay relevent I guess. I don't know. My social skills have always been in the toilet, so maybe I'm not the best person to be posting a response.

I also think it's okay to feel this way. For me, personally, it signals to me that I just need some alone time. It might be weeks, even. I think it's okay to be uninterested in conversation and sometimes I feel there's too much pressure to be engaged all the time. I just don't think it's necessary.

Hope you're well.
--SSP

Hi Star Seed,
I am glad to know I'm not alone in this. I liked what you said about needing some alone time, which is something I hardly ever get, because I have two young kids. Thank you for answering me

[BipolarBear32]

Originally Posted by ofthevalley

I an completely socially inept. I suck at being with people. I always have but it's definitely gotten worse.

Hi of the valley,
I also suck at being with people. I hate how Awkward it feels and I just don't like being vulnerable so I usually don't say anything, it seems safer that way. Thank you for answering me, I hope you are doing well

[BipolarBear32]

Originally Posted by newtus

I isolate almost everyday. Im afraid of people. So i stay inside.

Hi Newtus,
When I am feeling really bad I isolate too, some days I don't even want to wake up let alone be with people. My Therapist wants me to try and join a women's group and meet new people and honestly that is the last thing I want to do. Is there anyone you trust that you could spend a little time with each day instead of isolating?

[newtus]

Originally Posted by BipolarBear32

Hi Newtus,

When I am feeling really bad I isolate too, some days I don't even want to wake up let alone be with people. My Therapist wants me to try and join a women's group and meet new people and honestly that is the last thing I want to do. Is there anyone you trust that you could spend a little time with each day instead of isolating?

I live in a somewhat isolated part of texas. Dont know too many people. I goto a womens group top but only know two people and they dont live near me.

[greentires4me]

I have had social anxiety/diagnosed with it since I was 17 I know what it's like I get flare ups every now and again but I do lots of isolating but rarely have any anxiety attacks anymore which is nice since going to a anxiety group and learning some skills @ mental health. I use Self Talk lots to talk myself down and it does work.