[vickie0330]

well, this is my first post and i am on here to see about getting some help for my brother, 50 yo, who lives in another state, and my mother, 68 yo, who is trying to help him. he has had bipolar and major depressive behavior most of his life, been in/out of legal trouble/jail, currently has a house with "crazy" neighbors who have also been in/out of legal trouble who have a restraining order against my brother. they called him in to the police who took him to jail for 2 weeks or so, during which, they did not give him his sleeping pills which apparently has thrown him "out of balance". he repeatedly called my mother, who was in florida for the winter, and begged her to come home early to help him out of jail. she did and now he is staying with her and has spiraled into a crisis during which he berates and verbally abuses her all day, with delusional statements, blaming her for his every problem from birth to age 50. oddly, she said he had to call the insurance company and spoke very nicely to them, then got off the phone and went right back to his verbal abuse. i have suggested she ask/tell him to leave if he is going to act that way, but she is afraid he will commit suicide if he leaves that way. to my knowledge, he has not said he would commit suicide during this episode, but i know he has threatened in the past, along with, in the past (probably 2 years ago) threatened to kill my mom and dad. so...what to do? oh, he has seen VA mental health in recent past, and mom is not sure if he is taking meds, he may be "weaning" off, because he is now saying he is fine, everyone else is crazy. thanks for any comments.

[PsyChris]

If you [i]do[/] think he is going to hurt himself or others you should call emergency services and the local hospital will evaluate him.

Unfortunately if he does not want to go into the hospital, and does not pose a risk to himself or others it might be difficult for him to get help.

You can go down to your local hospital (or health department) and explain your situation to them. They may be able to help you find a solution that works for everyone.

[Rose3]

Is there a mental health association in your community?
Are there any programs available through the hospital - so that he could attend and get involved constructively.

[BalishBun]

I think getting him in a hospital will at least offer protection for him just in case he might actually commit or attempt suicide.

Yes, i think a hospital would keep him safe right now. Or prehaps a mental home of some sort? I have had a few brief stays in a place called the Priory (but this is in england) and it has very nice facilities. But i suppose money etc. could be an issue. Hope it all goes well

[crazybones]

i personally think he should be greatful considering his mom bailed him out he is 50 yrs old no excuse to be so mean to those who help and if there is a fear of something happening to him or any one around cant necesarilly just say get out becuz possible he could feel abandonment and with sucidial thought or anything like that would only make this feeling worse only doctors and hospitals can tell how stable he really is and he might just be having a melt down becuz of living situation with crazy neighbors i know i would