[lisasays]

My uni is pretty big. I am redoing first year and not living in halls. How should I go about finding some friends? At the moment I have like 2 friends and I am pretty bad at keeping in touch. I don't intend to be but I find it really hard to communicate unless it's in the moment, face to face. I hate having a mobile!
Initially I can start speaking to people fine, start speaking to the person next to me in class etc. Then the more they get to know me, more I back away. I do it all the time. I will make an effort to speak to someone, we'll get on, we'll maybe meet up once then I start dreading texts and avoiding them. It's not like I dislike them or that I'm content on my own. I really annoy myself with this because all though my intentions aren't selfish it doesn't matter cuz the outcome is that I mess people around. It must seem more ridiculous that I do this after being the one who initiates things. I never used to be like this. then I leave it so long meeting people that I feel I have to be on top form to go.
It's kinda embarrassing to have lived here so long and have no social life. I have nothing to show anyone here, it's quite pathetic. I have no life to introduce new people to and this is where I've been most my life. New people would surely wonder why I have no friends, it is odd for someone my age. I'm not okay with all this so when I think I might have to explain I hide away more, like if I get speaking to someone.
I've lost my train of thought. I don't think I've been talking much about what I intended. This isn't complete but I don't often get this much wrote before deleting/giving up.

[nellbells]

Gosh, I can relate soo much so that I'm not sure what advice I can give. I met lots of people over my four years in college or uni (I sincerely love how UK ppl use that term, sounds more hip than college, anyways...) through various ways. I met them in class, clubs, parties, dorms, and at work. My lasting friendships came from the dorms, work, and multiple classes that I had with people. In those situations I was seeing the same people over and over in a non-pressure kind of situation like we weren't making plans to see each other over coffee but rather there was a common entity that was bringing us together and we could chat or not, but over time I got to know them and then I became comfortable enough to hang out with them outside of whatever was bringing us together.

Since you are not in the halls anymore the dorms is out, so I'd try talking to people in class especially people where you have multiple classes in common. I'd also try getting a job where you think you'll meet like minded people, if getting a job is an option for you.

Hope this helps.