I used to be fine but now I'm just lazy when it comes to assignments. I do them sometimes but I need to be motivated to do them. I'm worried I might fail. The course I'm doing is a level 3 course in health and social care. I haven't done any work experience and it's my 2nd year. I couldn't work at the work experience I was placed at because the night before I got drunk and woke up and was 3 hours late. I was supposed to attend a interview. I have a place but I'm waiting for my CRB to come through the post. I'm such a lazy person I might not be able to be a nurse because I have scars that show and they are red and scarred. The work people might think I'm a weirdo. I think the Level 3 course is a little hard and too much work. If I quit, my mum will moan at me. I'm worried that my mum might shout at me if in the future anything happens. She just puts me down and discourages me. Any advice?

[capricorn1975]

Maybe you should move out and get your own place....

You need freedom!!!

Yeah and end up homeless

[capricorn1975]

Awwwwwwwwwwwwww

[Perna]

If you don't like what you have chosen to study, don't think you are a good fit for it or that it is too hard for you, choose something else or go sideways or down a bit?

Most people have to be interested in what they're doing to do it or interested in the bigger picture (being a nurse?) enough to put up with learning the bits that don't interest.

I would work on getting drunk after big events rather than before, so you miss them. No showing up is worse than scars probably. They can't evaluate how well you'll do if you don't show up.

Maybe your mum cares, moans because you don't seem to be taking this course seriously. What did she study? Could she be any help? I'd find others in the program that you could hang out with occasionally, enough so you at least look forward to being around them so show up and/or get in the mood from their being in the mood.

Originally Posted by Perna

If you don't like what you have chosen to study, don't think you are a good fit for it or that it is too hard for you, choose something else or go sideways or down a bit?

Most people have to be interested in what they're doing to do it or interested in the bigger picture (being a nurse?) enough to put up with learning the bits that don't interest.

I would work on getting drunk after big events rather than before, so you miss them. No showing up is worse than scars probably. They can't evaluate how well you'll do if you don't show up.

Maybe your mum cares, moans because you don't seem to be taking this course seriously. What did she study? Could she be any help? I'd find others in the program that you could hang out with occasionally, enough so you at least look forward to being around them so show up and/or get in the mood from their being in the mood.

Thank you

[Carole07]

I have found that I avoid doing assignments due to a fear of failure. Could this be why you got drunk the night before you were to show up for work? Anyway, in my experience, procrastination can be difficult to fight. But I am currently taking a class for my bachelors program that helps with setting educational goals and dealing with stress. This is part of what I studied this week. I hope that it helps.

Analyze the effects of procrastinating.

What may happen if you continue to put off a responsibility? Chances are you will benefit more in the long term by facing the task head-on.

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Set reasonable goals. Unreasonable goals can intimidate and immobilize you. Set manageable goals and allow enough time to complete them.

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Break tasks into smaller parts. If you concentrate on achieving one small step at a time, the task may become less burdensome. Setting concrete time limits for each task may help you feel more in control.

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Get started. Once you take the first step, you may find it easier to continue.

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Ask for help. Once you identify what’s holding you up, see who can help you face the task. If you are having trouble understanding the assignment, someone else may be able to help you clarify it.

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Don’t expect perfection. No one is perfect. Most people learn by making mistakes and learning from them. It’s better to try your best than to do nothing at all.

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Reward yourself. Find ways to boost your confidence when you accomplish a particular task. Remind yourself—with a break, a movie, or some kind of treat—that you are making progress.

Thank you for your advice