I need tips on focusing on my school work.

hey everyone, i tend to have a hard time focusing anyway and procrastinate too much. But for a long time now I have been letting my relationship get me down and distract me from my studies. I am spending more time worrying about my failing relationship and trying to figure out how to fix it and also trying to figure out how to break up with my bf if things dont work out than helping myself acheive the best grades possible and studying as much as possible. Can anyone give me some tips on how to focus on school and worry about myself first rather than ruining my remaining time in college by worrying?

Oh, I wish I could help but I'm terrible with procrastination myself.
In my experience, generally the things most important to the grade are tests and labwork; I tend to focus on these more than regular homework.

Hello, SakuraLi. Maybe these articles might help:

http://psychcentral.com/lib/2011/12-...finding-focus/
http://psychcentral.com/lib/2010/get...ination/all/1/

Good luck.

thanks umbral and byzantine, you both were very helpful.

What I would suggest is to go ahead and make ANY decision about your BF. You can go ahead and end the relationship, tell him it needs to go on hold until you get your school work done, or allow it to continue for now until you are caught up on school. It's the indecision that is getting to you, imo. Make a decision and then when the negative thinking comes up, remind yourself of the decision, and move on to what you do need to think about.

Regarding school work--or any task--that is difficult to get into, start small. Don't think about the "WHOLE" thing but just the first small bit you need to do... do you need to set up or clear out a place to work? Do that and then go do something else. Then, what's next? Materials to do the work? Program on the computer to set up? Do that and then go do something else. Etc. Be sure to tell yourself, "I only have to do this small task and then I can do something else."

Often, the relief of not having to "do the whole project" "assignment" or whatever gives you freedom to do more than you might otherwise. But if not, there's no guilt, you come back and do the next step in a little bit.

Some older students I know who have had trouble have used this method to not only get their home work done, but their HOME work done as well, alternating between two chores they don't want to do: paper home work and study / and real home work like cleaning house or laundry or cooking supper.

Good wishes!

http://psychcentral.com/lib/2011/12-...finding-focus/

Thanks JD this helps a lot!

hey! i totally know what you go through!

i just sit on my desk and think again and again about my problems. Then i lose focus and end up staying late in night desperately trying to finish my homework. it's a hard thing to kick out or my head. i try many ways to gain focus. tried meditation? it works if it's done right.