When I first started at college, everyone talked to me but Jessica. Before I met Jessica, I behaved myself and was on good terms with everyone. Then I met Jessica, who disliked me from DAY 1 w/o ever giving it a chance. I just didn’t get it and grew jealous as she talked to other people. I begged her and gave her $$$, which just disgusted her. Pretty soon, I cursed out everyone else for an anger outlet and even once screamed obscenities in the coffee shop. I also had a car accident over that girl. In the end, I hit and threw stuff on top of my verbal spewing and that was the last time I been on campus and NOT by choice.

Why did this have to happen?

[Aslan]

sounds like you played yourself.

Originally Posted by Aslan

sounds like you played yourself.

What's that supposed to mean?

[Aslan]

I sent u message

sounds like the same thing that happened with carla the girl at work...i'll say it again..you can not make people like you...not by paying them, or annoying them or abusing them or what ever. if people are going to like you they will like you. if you act like a jerk, chances are they will dislike you even more...your actions are not going to push them the other way.

in this world people are not forced to like certain people...that's just the truth of it. it sounds like you come on pretty strong..maybe try easing up a bit..i know you said you are in therapy so that is good..no great, but you have to keep working on stuff..

eventually these actions will land you in trouble...you will piss someone off or your actions will be so severe the police will get involved...you are young...you don't want to ruin your life over some other person...take some anger management classes, join a gym...learn to work out some of the hostility until you drop from exhaustion..anything...because it beats getting into trouble & having it follow you thru a lifetime...

again. i wish you only the bset.

oh...& i looked at the title of the threat..she did not ruin your school life..YOU did. sounds like she made it clear she did not want the friendship..but YOUR actions caused you to be asked to leave school.

if she did not want to be friends that is her choice. she has that right. you do not have the right to pester & harass & make it unsafe...that caused your school life to end.

you need to accept responsibility for YOUR actions...& your behavior.

[Aslan]

good advice.

I agree with stumpy's advice.

Although it may be hard to accept, not everyone will like you. It's just not possible. You have to accept that, and also accept responsibility for your actions. Jessica didn't cause you to improperly express anger - you did.

I hope you will seek professional help for your concerns.

Thx everyone. Your advice really keeps me going lol. One last question, though. I headbutted an object at Wal-Mart bc Emily didn't like me (3 years ago.) They canned me for workplace violence but I'm rehirable. Is it something to be canned for? Thx.

[Perna]

Headbutting is not safe or appropriate social behavior. Not many people want to be around someone who expresses themselves in such a negative manner. If you had worked for me, I would have fired you; if you cannot control your own behavior you are not safe to be around.

[venusss]

Others pretty much said it all. You cannot blame others for your doings. Not everybody will like you, that is life. Focus on those who do like you. Life is easier with some poeple around... and friendships take work.

You should explore the reasons why you tend to react like this and work on it. It is your life.