[brokenwingsflying]

OK so, this is hard for me to say, but I'm gonna try anyway-

I'm not in mainstream school, I go to a tuition centre which is based on the national curriculum but only has overall about 14 pupils, and only does half-days for students. I do five days a week, half days, (2-3 hours), with six people in my class. They are all 14 or 15. One girl is hardly ever there but the others are there pretty much all the time. Two boys and two girls. We are all there for medical reasons, things like ADHD, OCD, ODD, behavioral/emotional disorders, anxiety, depression and some physical.

I've got a pretty good 'friendly' relationship with all of them, but I hardly know them. Me and one of the boys get on well, but I know he has a crush on me and keeps asking me out when I'm 100% not interested, so that makes it awkward. Me and the other boy get on well too but he is very much like 'you are a girl, i am a boy, we can't be 'friends'. He is the type that thinks everything I do is coming onto him and flirting with him. So that's awkward too. One of the girls is really quiet and I kinda don't feel comfortable around her. And the other girl is really nice and all but we are sooo different and it's sometimes hard to talk to her, she's got a bad leg so she walks on crutches and some stomach problems, so she's in and out of hospital.

If I could pick, normally, then they definitely wouldn't be the group of friends I'd choice, but there isn't a choice there. I've always had good friends, like really close friendships, and since I've been out of mainstream school I feel pretty isolated and alone. I can't do any clubs or anything to meet people because of health issues, and I'm not in contact with anyone else. It's hard. It's normal to want friends, right?

I just don't really know what I should do... any advice?

I just don't really know what I should do... any advice?

What should you do in what way? I'm not getting the question.
This is just a school, correct? And you are there 2 to 3 hours five days a week and you get along pretty well with your fellow students. Is being in this new school preventing you from seeing your old friends? I'm trying to understand what you're asking

[Miswimmy1]

i think that as long as you are ok terms with the ppl there, then there is no reason why u can't have school be school, and fun time with your old friends? you know? I'm not sure what you are asking... but it sounds like although it may not be the ideal situation, it is going ok. also remember that since the class is so small, it may be hard to hav a "best friend". you cant really force friendships... sorry if i sound harsh, i dont mean to come accross that way. im not sure what you are asking tho...

hi, I can see how you are feeling a bit alone. If I were you I would keep in mind that this situation wont last forever and try to make the best out of it. I wonder if you can still meet up with your old friends somehow? Your parents might be able to drive you so you can see them once in a while.
From what you are writing it seems a bit that you might be overanalyzing your friendships with your current classmates and that isn’t very useful. If I were you I would focus more on myself. For instance try to find a subject at school you are particularly interested in. Try to do things that make you happy and you will see that the rest will come naturally. At your age there is so much to explore. I know its easier said than done. Maybe you might even realize that you and some other classmates have more in common than you first thought. I hope things will get better soon

[brokenwingsflying]

Originally Posted by laura8

I wonder if you can still meet up with your old friends somehow?

I do not have any 'old friends' as it didn't end well at my last school and I've been out of mainstream schooling for almost a year now.. i guess i just long for the sort of friendship i've never had- stable and good

[Miswimmy1]

Originally Posted by brokenwingsflying

I do not have any 'old friends' as it didn't end well at my last school and I've been out of mainstream schooling for almost a year now.. i guess i just long for the sort of friendship i've never had- stable and good

i know how hard it can be to have those friendships, they are rare and when you get one, its so special. do you do any extracurricular activites? is there any other way you could meet ppl? becuase it sounds like your school is small and you arent getting the friendships that you desire...

[brokenwingsflying]

Because of health issues, I can't do any clubs etc out of school and the school doesn't provide any type of activities out of hours... it's just hard i guess

[yellowted]

many teenagers feel the same as you even those in main stream education, you are at an age when hormones and emotions are running on overdrive and it is extra hard in a small group especially with so many differing conditions in the mix. this situation will not last forever, once school is over everyone goes their seperate ways. very few friendships last as lives take on new commitments and responsibilities and with those will come new friends
in the meantime, health issues may prevent you doing some clubs, but you may still be able to do others. depending on what your health issues are you may be able to find some specially for others with similar issues or a youth club or a sport that you enjoy, swimming is great for most people and if you talk to the group/club leaders first about your health issues they may be able to find ways that you can join in as much as is possible. I love art, but can't draw, so the group leader put together bits so i can interpret the thing they are drawing in a collage, often my finished picture is nothing like the subject, but i have fun and meet others - it's one night i dont spend alone at home!
Although i am unsure about all religions, church does seem to be the place to meet people, they are most likely to accept you as you, not judge by health issues. there may be a youth club or choir or something that you could give a try. remember although having friends of your own age is good, having friends who respect you for just being you is better and age becomes less important as you get older.
till then you always have friends on here to talk to x

[Perna]

You don't know any neighbors, haven't lived there long enough? What do you do when you are not at home? You can't meet local kids online somehow? I've met/become friends with people I've met online who live near me. You are probably not the only teen in your type of situation? Have you asked the teachers/school about making groups/clubs, ways to meet others in other tuition centres perhaps?

[brokenwingsflying]

Originally Posted by Perna

You don't know any neighbors, haven't lived there long enough? What do you do when you are not at home? You can't meet local kids online somehow? I've met/become friends with people I've met online who live near me. You are probably not the only teen in your type of situation? Have you asked the teachers/school about making groups/clubs, ways to meet others in other tuition centres perhaps?

The only people that live in my area (a village-type place) are ones that I went to the previous school with, when it ended badly for me- abuse, bullying etc.

When I'm not at home- I'm with my family or at the centre. Because I'm in such a small area (I live on an island off the UK) there are no other tuition centre's.

And I should probably mention that by 'heath reasons' I mean mental health. thank you for all the comments guys

[Perna]

Maybe all the kids weren't abusive/bullies, some might have just stood by because they were not secure enough in themselves to stand up for you and stop the bullying. Maybe there are some shy kids near you that you could try smiling at and see if they smile back, say hello to and see if they respond? Since you have been in the alternate school, everyone has grown up a bit and maybe there are some who would like to talk to you, get to know you a bit.