[GirlOfManyFaces]

I'm starting a new school tomorrow. And it's not the best school. Ad most the kids there are misunderstood people, like me.
My mom already told me I'm not aloud to make friends. She said maybe one friend my age, who isn't weird, and is a girl..... I'm already lonely and don't have any friends... And now I'm not aloud to make friends...

What should I do?

One friend is a lot more than zero, if your mum allows you to make one friend, I'd say do that for starters. Then maybe one more. Etc.

[yellowted]

making friends and making mistakes in friendships and learning how to differentiate between good and bad friends and how to negotiate with friends are all crucial tools in learning to become a well rounded confident adult. whilst at school you mum is not in charge your teachers are, so if they allow you to make friends (and i believe they will strongly encourage you to) then there is no reason why you can't make friends to hang out with during breaks, lunch etc, just, for now do not invite them back to yours after school.
if you get invited back to theirs then you need to decide if you ask your parents permission or politely decline the invitation.
I am curious as to why your mum does not want you to make any friends, i would have thought that if she was any sort of decent mother she would want to see you flourish into a social butterfly.
it could however be she is scared you may get in with a bad crowd, if this is the case then you need to be extra open with her about who you are socialising with, talk to her about how great you new friends are, and about any concerns you have around the let your mum help you sort out how to handle the problems that come with school friendships, that way your mum will still feel she has some control even if she hasn't got much and she will feel more able to trust your decisions around who you choose as friends and who you don't. her trust may take some time to win round but it is worth sticking with the above until eventually your mum should see you are being responsible and mature about choosing your friends and lay off you a bit.

[Oxidopamine]

The only rationale I can come up with is your mother is afraid you'll get caught up in making friends (some which will be "bad") and jepordize your academic success. That said, it's pretty bizarre because you cant know right off the bat who would be a good friend for you without getting your hands dirty and knowing people. Additionally, if you have only 1 friend and refuse to make others by trying to obey your mother, you'll be viewed as a loner and people probably will come to ignore you. In other words, the opposite of what you want.

If I were you, I'd meet different people at school, don't call them friends since you don't yet know them. Once you have more experience with them, figure out which is your best friend and label that one your, "friend". The others are still your friends but when you're talking to your mother about them, refer to them as acquaintances. Alternatively, present all of them to your mother as friends and let your mother realize you are capable of having multiple, "good" friends and still succeed academically. If she doesn't like that... well, if I were you, I'd ask what her rationale is and if it isn't bizarre, I'd keep the friends.

[NoCake]

Depression ruined high school for me in every way. You really don't want to go through any school without friends...

i've been at this school for two years already i still haven't made any trustworthy friends. they are all such a-holes, you know. they befriend you in the beginning, and then they stop talking to you after a while.

do you know what i'd do?

i'd just make friends with the people reguardless- if they are cool and you get along with them, why not?

it's not as if you have to go around telling your family... oh this is my new friend i made at school today- it's your life, so just do it

[GirlOfManyFaces]

Thank you so much^^^

I don't know what to tell you; I was not allowed to make friends either. My mom never said it but basically chased away any friends I made. Try to make friends regardless. They can be the kinds that are "in school" friends only where your mom won't know because she won't see them. Don't give out your number or anything and make an excuse why they can't text or call if they ask for it. Maybe later, your mom will ease up some. If you don't make friends now you will not develop a lot of skills that are essential for making and maintaining relationships later in life.

[Justcoping]

I don't know why your mother is limiting you fr having friends but its so
Important to establish relationships to learn social skills and to learn
How to be a friend and to learn to trust others.

If you don't start making friends now while you are young it will certainly wont help you as
You become a young adult. The friends you make today can become lifetime friendships.

I would hate to imagine someone going through life alone. This is suppose the time of your life, enjoy it.