[mackbain]

I put a lot of pressure on myself to get good grades, and my parents don't get it. My brother never did homeowork and they always had to push him really hard to do things, so they feel like they have to do that with me. When I get a slightly bad grade on anything, they yell at me. What's worse is that our grades are online so my parents find out my grades before I do. I'll come home from school after an okay day and then I'll get screamed st for something I didn't even know about. How do I explain to them that I'm not my brother and I'm really trying?

[Pikku Myy]

I do not believe they are giving you the right encouragement sweetie and it sounds like they are attemping to control you way too much However I do believe your parents have all the best intentions in their hart but they should NOT yell at you like this for any bad or not so perfect grades My daughter (age 17) and her friends have always been considered as "crazy little geeks" and now I would consider the little gang as "crazy & beautiful little geeks".... No parental pressure... and now they are all competing on who has the highest GPA... I believe it is Holly at 5.0 and they are all juniors!!!!
Positive reenforcement is so important... and your parents should not make you feel so sad. Hugs from a MOM

[Travelinglady]

As you say, maybe they are so used to having to do it with your brother, that they have just gotten into the habit of it. Wow, they're getting to see your grades before you do. That would be frustrating.

You know them and I don't. Would it be possible to sit down with them and tell them what you have told us?

By the way, I (as a mom, too) am glad to hear you are working hard and doing your best without having to be pushed. Feel proud of yourself. I encourage you to keep it up. It will pay off in the future. Even bosses like employees like you. I am sorry you are being stressed out.