[temnayastorona]

I don't think this needs a trigger warning, but what my parents have done could be seen as neglect, I suppose. I'm not sure. If I need to put something on this thread then please say so.

I am so ashamed. Of myself, of my parents for letting this happen, and of the system that allows this kind of thing. In my state, homeschooling is under no restrictions and as such no one gets a "check up" to make sure children are learning the curriculum they are supposed to be learning for college or even for just daily life. The amount I have seen this happen is shameful and to come to this realization was the worst moment of my life so far.

My mother is my "teacher", but both of my parents are very bizarre. They always let me do whatever I wanted as a child, I wouldn't bathe for months because they didn't want to make me bathe if I didn't want to. I would go weeks without brushing my teeth, and weeks without brushing my hair. They are loving, but sometimes it feels as if I never even had parents.

There are many things they've never taught me that I've had to teach myself, but now, at 16, I am determined to get into at least one college, somewhere out there. I need this; I really don't think I could live with myself knowing I failed to even get into a single college.

I have the SAT soon and despite my mother's assurance that I can just do it in October instead I'm years behind in almost every subject. They just gave up teaching me around 8th grade. I never even fully memorized my multiplication tables. I don't even know how. I was handed a book and told to repeat the numbers in my head.

I'm trying to teach myself and the library and internet are both serving as great "textbooks" but I don't even know where to begin. Algebra seems to be easy, but there are some things I don't even begin to understand. I can't afford a tutor, my family definitely can't.

I've also never taken a test, or written a real essay. I taught myself MLA format and never used it in an academic setting because my mother never cared enough to make me.

Please, if anyone has suggestions, if anyone is going through something similar, if someone just wants to tell me that it'll be okay and not assure me that "college is useless and dumb anyway" like my parents are, reply. I could use anything I could get at this point.

P.S: I can't go into foster care or anything so please don't suggest this. I have a girlfriend and we're LDR and being passed around foster homes might mean not getting to see her anymore, or worse, because we're not a straight couple. She is the only thing holding me down so I won't fly away at this point. I need her stability, even if that means staying with parents that apparently don't have the capacity to care for my future.

Thanks for anyone that took the time to read this, sorry for being so emotional, it's just not something I can be blasé about.

[Ruftin]

Welcome to Psych central temnayastorona!!!! I did indeed read your post and admire your tenacity towards getting a college education. Your maturity goes far beyond your 16 years!!!!! You are going to be ok. Don't let anyone tell you, you can't do it.

Perhaps schedule an appointment with a school counselor who might be able to direct you towards some classes that will help you prepare you for the SAT. A community college may offer remedial classes you may need once you have the results of your SAT scores. I hope this is some help for you. I went to public school and wasn't prepared for the SAT and did take remedial classes until I was up to the college entrance level. It may take you some time but it is doable if you don't give up!!

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[Apaurin150mg]

Originally Posted by temnayastorona

I don't think this needs a trigger warning, but what my parents have done could be seen as neglect, I suppose. I'm not sure. If I need to put something on this thread then please say so.

I am so ashamed. Of myself, of my parents for letting this happen, and of the system that allows this kind of thing. In my state, homeschooling is under no restrictions and as such no one gets a "check up" to make sure children are learning the curriculum they are supposed to be learning for college or even for just daily life. The amount I have seen this happen is shameful and to come to this realization was the worst moment of my life so far.

My mother is my "teacher", but both of my parents are very bizarre. They always let me do whatever I wanted as a child, I wouldn't bathe for months because they didn't want to make me bathe if I didn't want to. I would go weeks without brushing my teeth, and weeks without brushing my hair. They are loving, but sometimes it feels as if I never even had parents.

There are many things they've never taught me that I've had to teach myself, but now, at 16, I am determined to get into at least one college, somewhere out there. I need this; I really don't think I could live with myself knowing I failed to even get into a single college.

I have the SAT soon and despite my mother's assurance that I can just do it in October instead I'm years behind in almost every subject. They just gave up teaching me around 8th grade. I never even fully memorized my multiplication tables. I don't even know how. I was handed a book and told to repeat the numbers in my head.

I'm trying to teach myself and the library and internet are both serving as great "textbooks" but I don't even know where to begin. Algebra seems to be easy, but there are some things I don't even begin to understand. I can't afford a tutor, my family definitely can't.

I've also never taken a test, or written a real essay. I taught myself MLA format and never used it in an academic setting because my mother never cared enough to make me.

Please, if anyone has suggestions, if anyone is going through something similar, if someone just wants to tell me that it'll be okay and not assure me that "college is useless and dumb anyway" like my parents are, reply. I could use anything I could get at this point.

P.S: I can't go into foster care or anything so please don't suggest this. I have a girlfriend and we're LDR and being passed around foster homes might mean not getting to see her anymore, or worse, because we're not a straight couple. She is the only thing holding me down so I won't fly away at this point. I need her stability, even if that means staying with parents that apparently don't have the capacity to care for my future.

Thanks for anyone that took the time to read this, sorry for being so emotional, it's just not something I can be blasé about.

You will do yourself big service if you first learn how brain lear new matter. Google exact this letter-by-letter "mental map". Download or buy a shorter book on that matter.

Multiplying table isn't supposed to be just memorised, but as all new matter it is supposed to be learned with understanding.

Another tremendously signifficant thing... give up your relationship with your girl no matter how stable and supportive she is. Because being behind other student, you will need every bit of your time to pass every colledge grade in time.

You sound very intelligent and determined. There are plenty of guides on preparing for the SAT available. I'll bet you can get one and teach yourself. I don't know what's available in the way of online support for people preparing for the SAT, but I'll bet it's there.

You can take the SAT more than once, too, if you need to. (I'm sure you know that, just saying.)

If there's a college you would like to go to, you might contact their admissions office to see if they have advice for home-schooled students.

Best of luck to you!

[Apaurin150mg]

You sound very inteligent and determined to me also.

There are tiny minority of those home schooled who are in similar situation and seriously consider to go to colledge.

So stay determined, stik to work and results will come as time passes.

[tradika]

You can always go to a community college for awhile to take remedial courses.