[Yorinee00]

I think I've been snapping at my mom a lot lately. And I think it's due to stress...but I'm not sure.
I'm in college and I commute to school. I have no problem with that it's just that it's harder to make friends. I'm a junior now and I don't really have any friends. I'm pre-med so school is pretty tough and I'm constantly stressed. Now since it's summer I have a little break and I get to relax...except not really. Because I know I'm a slow learner I read my textbooks to get ahead and try to study the new material myself. But since it's summer I do give myself breaks here and there and so I watch some TV.

Every time I watch some TV she tells me that I better read the whole textbook before summer starts and that I should stop watching TV. SHE DOES THIS EVERY TIME.
Today I couldn't take it anymore so I snapped at her. She just laughs and says she's kidding...but it gets on my nerves!
But I feel like it's a bit unfair. I listen to whatever she says. I even commute back and forth while every other college student dorms. I don't complain ever. I literally study all the time, and never go out with my friends (cause I don't have any). I don't have a boyfriend, and I don't party. I don't spend any money. I don't give her any hard times. I do chores, I cook, I spend quality time with her. I honestly think I'm a pretty good child. I do enjoy it too, don't get me wrong here.
But whenever I watch TV (which is the only time and thing that relaxes me and gives me some entertainment and color in my life) she has to remind me of STUDYING. Like I don't feel like I deserve to hear this every time. I'm already stressed as it is, and all she does is remind me to study when i'm NOT studying. like....I feel like if I'm not doing something she likes I should be studying. It's either me studying or me doing what she wants me to do.

Sigh. Perhaps i'm just overthinking this. Someone please. diagnose me. what is wrong with me..........

[Travelinglady]

Hi, Yorinee00, and welcome to Psych Central! We aren't experts here, just fellow "sufferers," so I can't officially diagnose anyone. However, that said, I think you are right about having too much stress.

Could you tell your mom you are just taking a break by watching TV? I think I'd snap at her, too, under the circumstances. Or maybe tell her you are going to watch TV for a certain period of time (You decide) and then get back to studying. Research shows that people need study breaks!

Please let us know how things are going. Congratulations on your future plans! Be proud of yourself.

P.S. We are your friends here. You can even ask folks here to be your official friends, and chat with them. Not as good as real life, but helpful, I've found. Again, welcome!

[Cool_Knot]

I agree that you need to explain it to your mom that you are just taking some rest. But you should say it in a nice way. Make her understand that you will not be focus that much if you feel tired.

[alicetailor]

Originally Posted by Yorinee00

I think I've been snapping at my mom a lot lately. And I think it's due to stress...but I'm not sure.
I'm in college and I commute to school. I have no problem with that it's just that it's harder to make friends. I'm a junior now and I don't really have any friends. I'm pre-med so school is pretty tough and I'm constantly stressed. Now since it's summer I have a little break and I get to relax...except not really. Because I know I'm a slow learner I read my textbooks to get ahead and try to study the new material myself. But since it's summer I do give myself breaks here and there and so I watch some TV.

Every time I watch some TV she tells me that I better read the whole textbook before summer starts and that I should stop watching TV. SHE DOES THIS EVERY TIME.
Today I couldn't take it anymore so I snapped at her. She just laughs and says she's kidding...but it gets on my nerves!
But I feel like it's a bit unfair. I listen to whatever she says. I even commute back and forth while every other college student dorms. I don't complain ever. I literally study all the time, and never go out with my friends (cause I don't have any). I don't have a boyfriend, and I don't party. I don't spend any money. I don't give her any hard times. I do chores, I cook, I spend quality time with her. I honestly think I'm a pretty good child. I do enjoy it too, don't get me wrong here.
But whenever I watch TV (which is the only time and thing that relaxes me and gives me some entertainment and color in my life) she has to remind me of STUDYING. Like I don't feel like I deserve to hear this every time. I'm already stressed as it is, and all she does is remind me to study when i'm NOT studying. like....I feel like if I'm not doing something she likes I should be studying. It's either me studying or me doing what she wants me to do.

Sigh. Perhaps i'm just overthinking this. Someone please. diagnose me. what is wrong with me..........

Taking a break is equally important. It may provide relaxation to mind and you may perform better.

[Miswimmy1]

I don't think there is a diagnosis to give, other than normal college student As a college student myself, that would totally get on my nerves. You should remind your mom how lucky she is to have a college student who still enjoys spending quality time with her and helps out around the house. Most young adults that I know, including myself, would rather do anything but be stuck in the house with their parent(s).

Have you tried telling her that you don't like it when she makes comments that seem to be unnecessary and a little bit unreasonable, considering that it's summer vacation?