[breathejagged]

Yes, I did, but I feel like I learned almost nothing. I got D's and had to retake Algebra(I always struggled with math--> I did not learn the building blocks). I never tried hard in school because I did not want to fail/ look stupid(the irony). I am now in first year of Community College, and my lowest grade is a B (which I am happy about!), but I feel ashamed because I have to take Development class in math and maybe even in science (only got a D in high school because i did not try ). this might affect my graduation date. I just wonder when I will final be able to catch up to my peers in education? I guess I feel a sense of shame and anxiety of my future concerning college. I was wondering any advice, does anyone relate to this?

[MickeyCheeky]

I can relate a lot.. I'm sorry you feel this way, too

[Blue_Bird]

I relate, I did absolutely horrendously in high school. I was going through a lot mentaly and neglected my work and barely showed up. I'm in college now. There's nothing wrong with having to take developmental classes. Be proud you're doing really well

[leejosepho]

Originally Posted by breathejagged

...might affect my graduation date. I just wonder when I will finally be able to catch up to my peers in education?

Other than doing your best in your chosen field of study, of course, I would suggest trying to not be too concerned about how or when you have finally covered the basics expected of everyone. I did well in school until around 4th grade when homework started, and I was barely maintaining a middle-of-the-class grade average by the time I finished High School. Different people learn different things at different rates at different times in different places, so try to not let "everyone else" (as we sometimes perceive things) wind or set your personal clock.

[Talthybius]

I flunked out of school, low level community college. Just before I did, I subconsiously decided to 'drop' my old friends for new friends, who were all doing advanced education. All I wanted was to become an intellectual, but I failed at a lower level vocational school.

I had dreams for years about having to take an exam and getting into an argument with the teacher. I was the shy or polite kid, but had a rebellious streak. And somehow I got an unfair test, or I would start doing something strange.

Now my peers age-wise have postdoc positions or are just entering tenure track. My actual peers are bachelor students. I went back to school after 8 or 9 years. I don't even know how many years passed. Then to university within two years. I stopped having dreams about teachers or exams.

All I want now is to stay ahead of my actual peers, which is a challenge as they, unlike me, are talented and dynamic people with flexible brains that are like spounges.

As for you, as you have graduated, I am not sure why you are looking back. It sounds like you think you are having a hard time because of shaky foundations. I wouldn't worry about entering the working force 1 or 2 or 3 years later than anticipated. There is some advantage to that, maybe. There is this sweet spot of ideal hiring age. Maybe it is 26-28, I am not sure. Below that, people on average may be too immature. And applying for a job at 26-28 when you have been jobless for the last 2 years is way worse than being that same age, and having just graduated. You immediately want to get the proper type of starter job after graduating.

But the age thing depends a bit on the job. For some jobs, people won't take you seriously if you are too young. Who really wants to be treated by a doctor who is 28 but looks 24 to you if you are 50 years old?

On my first day at university, we were split in groups to be introduced to the cmapus and our first project. One guy in my group was explaining his background. He was explaining some education delays: "I am old. I am already 21 *emberrased laugh". Yes, he was 3 years older than most. I didn't tell them I was 31.

[TishaBuv]

You're doing the right thing progressing in school. You can always get a tutor to help with the course work. The main thing is to focus on the end goal, of what career you want to pursue.

I am the ultimate underachiever. Probably bright enough to have done anything. Never really graduated anything. Now I am in a sales career that I like and didn't need an undergrad degree for anyway.

[breathejagged]

Originally Posted by Talthybius

I flunked out of school, low level community college. Just before I did, I subconsiously decided to 'drop' my old friends for new friends, who were all doing advanced education. All I wanted was to become an intellectual, but I failed at a lower level vocational school.

I had dreams for years about having to take an exam and getting into an argument with the teacher. I was the shy or polite kid, but had a rebellious streak. And somehow I got an unfair test, or I would start doing something strange.

Now my peers age-wise have postdoc positions or are just entering tenure track. My actual peers are bachelor students. I went back to school after 8 or 9 years. I don't even know how many years passed. Then to university within two years. I stopped having dreams about teachers or exams.

All I want now is to stay ahead of my actual peers, which is a challenge as they, unlike me, are talented and dynamic people with flexible brains that are like spounges.

As for you, as you have graduated, I am not sure why you are looking back. It sounds like you think you are having a hard time because of shaky foundations. I wouldn't worry about entering the working force 1 or 2 or 3 years later than anticipated. There is some advantage to that, maybe. There is this sweet spot of ideal hiring age. Maybe it is 26-28, I am not sure. Below that, people on average may be too immature. And applying for a job at 26-28 when you have been jobless for the last 2 years is way worse than being that same age, and having just graduated. You immediately want to get the proper type of starter job after graduating.

But the age thing depends a bit on the job. For some jobs, people won't take you seriously if you are too young. Who really wants to be treated by a doctor who is 28 but looks 24 to you if you are 50 years old?

On my first day at university, we were split in groups to be introduced to the cmapus and our first project. One guy in my group was explaining his background. He was explaining some education delays: "I am old. I am already 21 *emberrased laugh". Yes, he was 3 years older than most. I didn't tell them I was 31.

Yes, I feel insecure because I am on shaking ground and just now have gotten to the point where I care about my grades. My biggest fear is not failing but not having tried my absolute best, I Don't want to ever resorted to my old habits of being unmotivated to care. I also I have a lot of classmates that are way older then me. I admire them a lot i don't sympathize but empathize it takes a lot to attend college.

[breathejagged]

Originally Posted by MickeyCheeky

I can relate a lot.. I'm sorry you feel this way, too

Don't worry and thank you I hope you feel better.

[breathejagged]

Originally Posted by TishaBuv

You're doing the right thing progressing in school. You can always get a tutor to help with the course work. The main thing is to focus on the end goal, of what career you want to pursue.

I am the ultimate underachiever. Probably bright enough to have done anything. Never really graduated anything. Now I am in a sales career that I like and didn't need an undergrad degree for anyway.

Thank you haha definitely understand about being an underachiever although i am trying to transition into a overachiever

[PumpkinPieHead]

Hi honey, I think there is something that you need to know, here. You're not in a race, Ok?

I did not graduate high school. However, I got my GED at 17 so for all intents and purposes, I *finished* a year early. I started at a junior college at 19, dropped out, went back at 22, dropped out, went back at 25. I am 27 and only have an associate's degree, but I am still proud of myself. There is no race, no time limit, no rules to this thing.

O, and I had to take a remedial math!

[Vossie42]

>> On my first day at university, we were split in groups to be introduced to the cmapus and our first project. One guy in my group was explaining his background. He was explaining some education delays: "I am old. I am already 21 *emberrased laugh". Yes, he was 3 years older than most. I didn't tell them I was 31.[/quote]

Ha-ha, I was 45 when I went back to school! I was older than some of my teachers!

[ken9018]

I'm in my second year of community college and I started with remedial math(and still have plenty more math classes for my degree program). But it's absolutely nothing wrong with that. so it may take a little longer to get your degree, but at least you will still receive one. Be proud of that!

[Talthybius]

Originally Posted by breathejagged

Yes, I feel insecure because I am on shaking ground and just now have gotten to the point where I care about my grades. My biggest fear is not failing but not having tried my absolute best, I Don't want to ever resorted to my old habits of being unmotivated to care. I also I have a lot of classmates that are way older then me. I admire them a lot i don't sympathize but empathize it takes a lot to attend college.

Well, being worried you are not giving your best is healthy, up to a degree.

I guess one of the reasons why I now do better is rather than being apathetic to the result of an exam, I now do feel the actual pressure of deadlines, and my pride is on the line every exam I take.