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Old Feb 24, 2018, 03:41 AM
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I'm not sure I'm suited for university. Sure, I'm just at the beginning and at the moment things have been going ok, so I technically shouldn't be too worried. But I am, I don' think it will last much longer. I'm not very smart, I'm not very good at studying.. I try my best, but I'm not sure that will be always enough. Plus, even if I do try my best, my teachers wouldn't know.. and what if some of them are very strict/severe? They might be asking for more than what I can actually give..

Plus, it doesn't help that I'm very lonely there. I'd love to have some friends, perhaps even meet a girl I like, but I don't think that's gonna happen anytime soon.

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Old Feb 24, 2018, 05:18 AM
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I think this is a common situation. You shouldn't feel so bad about this, because many people struggle with study stress, pressure, and that combined with loneliness. It is kind of a taboo to talk about it.

I looked at your post history and things like loneliness, depression, guilt, self-confidence, self-image keep coming up. Universities usually have student counseling. I would suggest to start there. Once you feel happier, less lonely, your academic performance will go up. All things are connected, so you can get into a negative spiral. But when things are going better, you will get into a positive spiral. Less lonely -> more positive emotions -> better academic results -> more confidence -> less lonely, etc.

I assume you are at the normal age for a student. Your personality is still in flux. If you don't like who you are now, it is not set yet. You can change who you are right now much easier than in 10 years. You can also make friends more easily than in 10 years. So realize you actually have this huge opportunity to work on your current challenges.

It is all about putting yourself outside your comfort zone, failing, being ok with it, learning from the experience, and trying again. That is how people you may look up to did it. Some very cool successful people didn't have smooth high school years. But they challenged themselves during university and changed who they are.
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Old Feb 24, 2018, 07:08 AM
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Thanks I already do therapy actually.. although student counselling might still be a possibility since it's more "specific" for university problems.. perhaps I'll take it into consideration.
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