[iprojordon]

Hi, I believe in self help uncontrollably I obsess about it, but that's not my problem at this moment.

My problem is I live with signifigant amount of distress or stress, the test said distress, but anyways it is cronic and bothering me almost 24/7 for at least the past 3 years. I have had a lot of professional help but still can't get over my obsessive nature which causes my distress is which I believe.

I am constantly trying new tactics and new tools to try and fix myself, sometimes I try to just be and that doesn't work either. I have a hard time explaining what is going on, and it doesn't help me to get the right medication's if that is the problem.

It is just soo disabilitating and I am getting sick of it. I'll never commit harm to myself because to many people care about me and I can appreciate that. If it was my way and people didn't care about me I would be gone years ago but its the people and the passion that keep me going. I just want to get better and have all this hard work I put into my memtal health to be worth something. I just want some not all, of my life back before I was diagnosed with schizopbrenia. There just has to be a better way to live.

Every day I work on motivating myself to get better and I think I have good clear goals. I want to go to school and do one.course at a time, I want a part time job and make a extra 500 a month, i'd like to be fit and have the motivation to do the 15-28 minutes of exersize a day, my eating habits have gotton better so I'm proud of that. The last thing I want is a nice girlfriend to care in exchange for my care, but with all my distorted thinking, I can't even imagine that.

I don't know really what I am asking for other then new hope, and mabye some new stratigies, to get the stress and anxiety down to a copable level, then mabye my progress towards my goals will be more fluent and ill mabye be able to enjoy my life.

Sorry if this is long and drawn out, but I just needed to vent and see what the world and this site has to offer me, and.in the same, I'll try and.offer my services back.

Thank you : Jordon

[Perna]

I think the difference between stress and distress is that stress is something actual that causes us distress, which is how we feel about it.

Jordon, it sounds like you are "worried" about a lot of things and that is causing you distress. Worry is about what might/could happen in the future but is totally happening in our head, is our thoughts making up scenarios for the future. If you cannot stop yourself from doing that, start picturing good things happening as well or about how you can do practical things so the "problem" you are worried about won't worry you?

I am a bit worried about my husband dying and my having to manage our complicated finances alone, for example. So, I asked my husband to write me a guide "book" about our finances that I can refer to, if he becomes suddenly disabled or dies. Too, I ask him questions and take an interest in our investments and do a little myself so I can understand his computer spreadsheets better and not find them as intimidating. I am still worried but not as much or as often.

Or, if you are distressed after something happens you do not like, put it in perspective with all things that have happened. Some things can be very uncomfortable but they don't stay that way? I know I don't like "messy" things like eating submarine sandwiches and getting mayonnaise all over me :-) or, use to be, eating ice cream cones because they would drip and I found that distressing. Now, when I find I am feeling anxious about something, I figure out what it is and how to change it if I can (I'm grown up now so I can eat the ice cream fast enough to keep it from dripping! :-) or figure out how to lessen my distress if I can (going to the bathroom and washing my hands in the middle of eating something messy if I have to; only allowing myself to feel X distressed before I stop and fix it) or to put up with it, looking beyond it to something that will happen later that will be pleasant. If I'm trying to lose weight, for example, and am distressed at feeling hungry now, I can look forward to what I am having for dinner and take comfort in knowing I will be eating in 3-4 hours and won't feel hungry for awhile after that.

[iprojordon]

thank you, I will try and put my worries into perspecive, thanks for taking the time to give me this feed bqck and I truly appreciate it. It sounds like something that might take time, but I ill give it a shot. thank you.

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