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Old 11-15-2006, 01:58 PM   #61
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Okiedokie:

Thanks for the link to Root Cause Analysis. I read it. It reads like it was written by some of my friends in Industrial Technology. I kept wanting to translate the schools, the 5 Whys, the general process, and so on into my Chapter 2 where the steps in self-help are spelled out: (1) selection of the problem, (2) collection of basic data, (3) understanding the problem by five parts or levels, (4) setting realistic goals, (5) select self-change methods to use, (6) make a treatment plan, (7) collect and plot data frequently, (8) get going according to plan, etc, etc.

What treatment plan have you worked out to reduce your hypersensitivity? I bet a lot of posters have had some success with this problem. It is a good problem to discuss on this forum.

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Old 11-15-2006, 02:13 PM   #62
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alexandra:

I tend to agree with you...especially understanding, accepting and tolerating others helps us feel better about ourselves.

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Old 11-16-2006, 01:07 AM   #63
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Why do service providers tell us we need to be more self-sufficant, then when we try they tell us how hard it is, and to let them keep doing for us?
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Old 11-16-2006, 01:30 AM   #64
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Hi Dr. Clay,
Very interesting! Thanks for sharing.
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Old 11-16-2006, 01:47 AM   #65
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Hi,
You're right on the money -- that's what I do for a living! It really is part and parcel of your work, isn't it?

My tx plan for hypersensitivity really isn't all that impressive. The first thing I try to do is take care of myself physically: take the antidepressant, sleep, rest, good nutrition, exercise, work and fun. And not necessarily in that order. Welcome to Self-Help Ideas and Goal Setting! But, I have to tell ya, it's quite a trapeze act without a net. For instance tonight, I'm exhausted having not slept last night, worked all day and school presentation tonight. My physical anxiety level all day today was really uncomfortable. I don't see a pdoc or a T and I'm sure you know why.

I'd love to hear your and other's suggestions as to how to better manage this. On days like this, I do remind myself that this too shall pass, but it's difficult knowing that years ago having suffered a major depression with psychotic features, that I could end up that sick again. It's my biggest fear.

Thank you. I appreciate this dialogue with you. I'll expect your bill in the mail! Welcome to Self-Help Ideas and Goal Setting!
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Old 11-16-2006, 12:59 PM   #66
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nothemama8:

I agree, this does seem like a mixed message. I guess I'd ask the helper why he/she sent conflicting messages. For example, What exactly did you mean about being self-sufficant? Can you give me some examples of what I could do?

Why did you tell me that it is so hard to help yourself? Was that encouragement to work hard? Was it a suggestion to start with easy chages? Was it trying to prepare me for some failures?

I'm wondering if you are pretty sure I can't get far trying to help myself? Are you feeling discouraged that you have to do lots of things for me? How long do you feel we will need to continue the counseling? What should we be doing in therapy?

Those are the kinds of things I'd like to talk about, if I were you.

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Old 11-16-2006, 02:01 PM   #67
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okiedokie:

Looks like a good plan. I'm a believer in exercise (I'm up at 5:00 and off to the "Y") and in meds to the extent needed and healthy food.

What about a direct attack on the tension by good sleep (Ch 4), reducing worries (Ch 5), relaxation (Ch 12), and meditation (Ch 12). Not all of them but the one that sounds the best to you. I'm just going to suggest you look these methods in my Chapter Indices. (I went to the book to get these URLs and then I lost the whole post--so I'll do it the easy way.)

I understand about the concern about depression returning. My only suggestion is to avoid the crises you can, stay as calm as you can (without worrying about it) and believe that in time the threat of feeling low will become less and less likely.

Nice talking with you. Let me know how you are doing. My bills are very high...but you can pay me in full by filling out a feedback form (see on first page). Welcome to Self-Help Ideas and Goal Setting!

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Old 11-16-2006, 09:06 PM   #68
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Welcome to Self-Help Ideas and Goal Setting! drclay, if you get desperate, we have a community fund here Welcome to Self-Help Ideas and Goal Setting!
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Old 11-16-2006, 09:34 PM   #69
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Thank you...chapters 4,5 & 12. I'm on it! I will provide feedback -- I missed that somehow. Dr. Clay, this is the best thing since sliced bread. Conversation with a PhD at no charge and no threat of physical harm. You can't see me and you can't touch me. Thank you for being there.
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This Forum is an excellent idea it will help me to focus on one thing that is positive and see it through... it might take me a while to get through a 1500 pages book i am a slow reader but i use the discipline of staying on track and get somewhere rather that being allover the place and get no where... i will try to have one positive thought everyday and post it... this will be my gift to myself for my birthday today... i am looking forward to meet all the members in this forum and mutually encourage each other bringing the best in all of us.

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Old 12-19-2009, 11:36 AM   #71
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Thanks DocJohn & DrClay. Yeah! I've found this wonderful self help info long ago. And I love to get in touch with the kind author like you.

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This is interesting I'm axious to see how it goes.
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Eastern teachings on taming thoughts and converting emotions
I have been asked "what are some good places to learn what cognitive and behavioral therapies look like in Eastern Thought. Here are two sites (and their search hits) which are good places for beginners. No special vocabulary or education is needed to benefit from these beginning teachings. Hope they are of benefit to any who are interested in such things.

Here is the general search web site for Tonglen Meditation. I personally like Pema Chodron, who is famous for, among other things, her book: "Start Where You ARE". http://www.bing.com/search?FORM=WEAC&PC=WEAC&q=Tonglen+Meditation&src= IE-SearchBox here is a site where you can read what she says: http://www.beliefnet.com/Faiths/Faith-Tools/Meditation/1999/12/Tonglen-Meditation.aspx Changing Pain into Compassion.

Here is the link to a search of Lojong Mind Training : http://www.bing.com/search?FORM=WEAC&PC=WEAC&q=Lojong&src=IE-SearchBox And here is the site for the Daily Lesson: http://lojongmindtraining.com/ Taming the Thoughts

This should set you well on your way to a newer and deeper understanding of how to tame the thoughts, and emotions, and progress on the path to being the person we all want to be: our best self~! :-) your friend, Gus
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Welcome!

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http://www.getselfhelp.co.uk/freedownloads2.htm

Wanted to make sure this link is seen by any new peeps to PC :-)
It has tons of FREE therapy worksheets!
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To all the Welcomers:

Thanks for the warm welcoms and sometimes poetic comments. I'd like to welcome each of you with equal enthusiasm.

Several of you promised to read more of my book. You probably know that it is 1750 pages and growing. It may be better to think of it as a reference book that covers many topics. So, much of the book can be covered by just reading about topics you want to know about right now. Topics of interest can be found by going to the Chapter that interests you and then look for specific topics of interest in the Chapter Index. Or better yet, go to the search engine at the top of any page and type in the topic you are looking for.

For our purposes on this forum, it is probably best to discuss "how to change this behavior or feelings or thoughts" as if we were discussing a treating some problem rather than discussing the topics covered in a given Chapter. So, bring some problem to the forum that seems to be resisting change.

Please don't expect me to come up with the answers. My wife gave me a nice plaque that quotes Michelangelo: I am still learning.

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I have a problem that so far resists change. I do not know if anything can be done about it,but here it is. I have always been ''Slow'' concerning micro-movements,such as typing,buttining shirts,even things I love doing. While employed,I was accused of not trying my utmost to ''get the project done''and I had tried to tell the boss that I am doing the best that I can. He thought I was lazy. I have always had to deal with this,and I fell as though my body's system rebels against what I intend for it to do. Sometimes the results are quite funny,sometimes annoying,as in the case of maintaining employment.Is there a way to gain speed without making a mess of things?
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Hi..first timer..im 49..in and out therapy since 23. Had 2 great long term therapists. Been inpatient 3 times. First psychiatry at 20. Several different diagnosis, which never quit fit. Then two years ago, my dear therapist,friend now, brought cptsd up..it makes more sense as my issues are situatonal. Parents were alcoholics, husband died of overdose, my child is an heroin addict..so here I Am still standing..looking forward to learning,listening,sharing. Feels like a safe place.need that now. Im isolated and homebound..thank you for forum. those are "the facts" me im fighting never giving up..embracing my self my strengths weakness mistakes..up and down but staying afloat. So yeah hi im new😁😌✊🌟looking forward to meeting all..yes i use humor when feel stressed out but truly respect and empathize with all. I also have bsw but never practiced..only non profits im social activist..
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