[daman25]

Hi there guys! I am going to keep this brief. I am about to be 25 years old in a couple days and there are some things that are depressing me.

Last year I decided to pursue my passion in music and dedicate full time to music since I was making decent money doing so... I quit my day job and did a couple of other good and bad choices. Today I am having one particular problem which is seriously affecting my overall health. I am still living with my parents and for about a year or so I have dreamed about being on my own... however I am the type of people who likes to do things right or atleast think I am...

My main issue is bad company. I keep finding myself hanging out with the wrong people over and over. I have always been a goal oriented person and usually stick to something until I am pretty good at it... I believe in myself a lot... but lately I feel like I have been hurting myself by being around people who do not make my life better.

Often when I hang out with these people my energy is drained... I do not feel like doing things I had planned... then a couple of days later I suffer the consequences with guilt. There are times I wake up feeling really stupid.... see the thing is I am no better than them when I am around them... I am also part of it. I have taken vacations and time for myself and I have seen good improvement. People love to be around me... I read a lot and usually can influence others... but when I go back to that bad circle its like I am useless. We usually end up doing very childish things and a lot of times either they end up making fun of me for something silly or we end up making fun of each other (I guess like "boys" do).

I am tired of this... I know I have a problem... but my main issue is that I solve it temporarily, things go well, then I go back to where I started.... I might have a great productive week, then see my results and for some reason I feel like I have to hang out with these people.... Sometimes when they had nothing to do with my success. It saddens me and depresses me that I do this to myself... and sometimes feel like my subconscious mind is so corrupted that I just fall back into misery with this bad company. I guess sometimes I think is the "hope" that we will all get better... but as time passes by I notice that it doesn't... instead the opposite happens.

There are times I just think about being plain cruel and cutting them off completely... because when I cut them off somehow my life gets more in order... yet for some reason my mind always finds a desire to share time with these "friends." Now do not get me wrong. I love my friends... but sometimes I feel like they drag me back by wasting time on unproductive things. As I mentioned... I love to read, do music, work out, etc so my mind and body are usually active... they are the opposite. I try to find people with the same desires as me but often I can't get used to new people... Can somebody please advice me on how to move on from this?

I have been working for myself for the past year and at sometimes I am doing good with money then I go broke... it depresses me... these last 2 weeks I decided to get training on real estate so I can go sell and make extra money so thats a new chapter of my life and I wish to start that chapter on the right path. I know some of my friends are toxic... I tell myself this everyday and I guess because I think so much about it I attract those situations even more.

Can somebody please give me some advice on how to go on with my life?

[Travelinglady]

Hello, daman25, and welcome to Psych Central! You do sound like you have a level head. I agree that hanging around with certain people can bring us down. But, as you suggest, you are comfortable with them and having some trouble reaching out to new people.

I suggest you post about this issue in the Relationships and Communication forum and look at the Work and Careers forum to see if you would like to post there.

I think you will get some good advice from folks in those places.

I hope you can regain control over your life soon.