[Ad Intra]

I want to be a good person, one who doesn't judge and has compassion and sympathy for all.
I want this so bad but I don't always do it and I feel bad about that.
Any ideas?

[CANDC]

Ad Intra, those are very noble goals and I really appreciate your good intention.

I have been working on this for a long time, so I just want to say don't judge yourself if you slip back into old patterns. I do all the time. If I fall down 1000 times, I get up 1001 times.

For me a daily or twice a day meditation helps me divest myself of my own troubles that sometimes I am drowning in.

Here is one person that tries to have compassion for all and help everyone find improvement in their lives right where they are now, the Dalai Lama.

Compassion and the Individual | The Office of His Holiness The Dalai Lama

I have not read this whole article but it starts with some good thoughts.
A Guide to Cultivating Compassion in Your Life, With 7 Practices : zen habits

[gayleggg]

I think it takes practice to be sympathetic and compassionate and with practice, it means we won't always get it right. Just keep trying. I think the more we practice the easier it gets. So practice having compassion for yourself when you are not perfect. It's a good place to start.

[Eva_Star]

The fact that you want this tells me you are already a good person. As for how to become a more compassionate, sympathetic person, I think just being aware of your thoughts as they come in. Example...you see someone and you have a negative judgement pop into your head about them. Grab that thought and ask yourself why you feel that way. Is there something in your past that causes you to jump to that negative conclusion? Then challenge that thought...see the person a different way...think of what may have gone on in that person's life to bring them up to the point that you have met them. We don't know what causes people to be how and who they are. If you do this for a time, you will notice a shift in how you perceive people.