[Restin]

Don't get me wrong...I'm all for self help and everything we can do to be our own best friend, helper, defender, and such. But I think sometimes it can go to extremes and actually feed into those who have avoidant or dismissive attachment disorder, or those of us struggling with omnipotent denial that stands in the way of depth therapy, marriage, and relations at work.
I mean, if I can be all things for myself, why bother with relationships at all? I thought one purpose of therapy is to help people who can't have good relationships because they're independent to a fault. Being my own good parent supports my ultra independent stance in life.
I was talking about this with my T. She was advising how I can learn to be a good parent to myself, be self soothing, be the champion of my "inner child". So, I said, "Does that mean I'm supposed to have a Transference relationship with my own self?" How can that be?
When I'm done learning how to be all things to myself, and be this great parent for my own inner child, then I will become a better hermit than I ever was before I walked through the therapists door.
I hope she thought about that.

[sideblinded]

I have never actually thought of becoming a hermit by becoming the best inner parent role before. I think the opposite actually. If I become my own best parent to heal my inner child then I will not want to isolate and I will want to be better to myself and get out and live rather than just survive. Your take on this is kind of comical. Thanks!

[mountain human]

I punched out my inner child--he was asking for it.