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Old Mar 07, 2016, 04:49 PM
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I'm with the greatest guy in the world, yet I can't seem to stop lusting other guys. I don't wish to have a secret relationship, it's just my sexual urges can be really intense sometimes and I feel so guilty. I need to stop this or I'm going to ruin my entire relationship and he's the only person in the world I love the most and if I lose him, I have nothing. I don't have a family anyways.
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Old Mar 08, 2016, 10:47 PM
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I'm with the greatest guy in the world, yet I can't seem to stop lusting other guys. I don't wish to have a secret relationship, it's just my sexual urges can be really intense sometimes and I feel so guilty. I need to stop this or I'm going to ruin my entire relationship and he's the only person in the world I love the most and if I lose him, I have nothing. I don't have a family anyways.
I can relate to this so much. I have urges all of the time, give or take a month where I don't. I have actually followed through with my urges on several occasions and have pathologically lied to my boyfriend every single time.. and every single time he finds out. Take it from me to speak to someone about this issue because it is NOT normal to feel like doing that all the time.
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Old Mar 08, 2016, 11:33 PM
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I just read this and thought that I was the only one..
When I get into a manic phase I find that this happens to me. I was with a really amazing guy for almost 2 years and I had thoughts but never followed through with them. He was the only person I had ever been with that this didn't happen.
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Old Mar 29, 2016, 05:19 PM
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I'm with the greatest guy in the world, yet I can't seem to stop lusting other guys. I don't wish to have a secret relationship, it's just my sexual urges can be really intense sometimes and I feel so guilty. I need to stop this or I'm going to ruin my entire relationship and he's the only person in the world I love the most and if I lose him, I have nothing. I don't have a family anyways.
Okay, first, let's put some things back into perspective. You have a family, it might be dysfuntional (I don't know) but you have a family. Then, you would survive if you lost your boyfriend, I passed through many break-ups, many people I know did the same and we always came back stronger. You'll see, time, heals even the deepest of wounds. Finally, you have a big libido, that's perfectly normal and entirely natural, many girls wish they could be in your shoes! Don't worry about what others say, it's normal and much more spread to lush over other men or women. Lots of people do it, it's not wrong until you cheat on your boyfriend and if you can furfill your needs, that won't ever happen! You gotta assume your sexuality, embrace the fact that you have a huge libido and live with it otherwise you'll end up sexually frustrated and go for other men, which you don't want to do. My advice would be this : tell your boyfriend that you have huge sexual needs, tell him that its affecting you, that you need more sex, don't mention lusting over other men, don't ever mention lusting over other men but do tell him that you love him and that you need more sex. A lot of people are not comfortable discussing such things but it's fundamental for an healthy relationship. Your boyfriend seems like a great guy and if he really likes you and has no sexual problems, chances are he will accept in a heartbeat! Forget about being a pervert, any judgment from anyone, bring everything back to our human nature. We have needs, we must accept them and we must get our needs met, it's that simple. Believe me, I don't know how often you guys do it but it worked for me, it worked for others, it will work for you. If it doesn't and it could, sexuality is not an exact science, there are other solutions but try this one, if you two have a great chemistry, it will be A LOT OF FUN!

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Old Mar 29, 2016, 05:24 PM
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I always like about six guys at anytime.
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