[Sarmas]

I'm trying to work in breaking habits. There's one specifically that I'm having an issue with. I tried talking myself through it before committing my issue. Apparently I failed once again and the outcomes could be worse than what I first imagined it to be. I have an issue saying no which can be detrimental at times. Then I feel horrible about myself after the fact. My ex T knew about it to some point. We never addressed it deep enough where I could try to Start making a change. I don't to come across this issue too often which is great. It only takes the one time me to place myself in a predicament which may become irreversible. I wish we would've addressed it more and not so much on the surface. Now I'm lost as to how to make myself stop.

[gayleggg]

Breaking habits is hard. It takes perseverance. Don't give up.

[Skeezyks]

[julia90]

I am having the same problem as you. I feel very disapointed about myself.

[Leyla]

i have the same issues too. i suck at being consistent. i will do well for abit and than fall off the wagon, and than of course i beat myself up over it.. with negative self talk.

but like gayle said... we must not give up....

[profound_betrayal]

I know that this thread is older, but in the event that anyone reads it, I thought I might comment (as I have struggled at one point with this)

I believe it takes over a month (7 weeks?) to create a habit. Can't remember - try google-ing

It is hard. Our brain doesn't have the information for the new habit. You have to practise it more and more until the networks build and form relationships. However, it it takes TIME (over a month of consistent action) & PERSEVERANCE.

Our brain resists change because the familiar is comfortable. New (including habit) is perceived as threatening - it stays "safe" (for our well being). This may be evolutionary, like so many other things we struggle with today (reptilian brain etc) ...

[Sunflower123]

Originally Posted by profound_betrayal

I know that this thread is older, but in the event that anyone reads it, I thought I might comment (as I have struggled at one point with this)

I believe it takes over a month (7 weeks?) to create a habit. Can't remember - try google-ing

It is hard. Our brain doesn't have the information for the new habit. You have to practise it more and more until the networks build and form relationships. However, it it takes TIME (over a month of consistent action) & PERSEVERANCE.

Our brain resists change because the familiar is comfortable. New (including habit) is perceived as threatening - it stays "safe" (for our well being). This may be evolutionary, like so many other things we struggle with today (reptilian brain etc) ...

Very insightful. Thanks for sharing. Best wishes.