[Br1yan]

So I turned 18 about a month ago. And i had been planning to move out with my gf for some time. She has told her family 2 months ago. Shes been waiting for me to do it and i kept making excuses until about 2 weeks ago that i told my parents of the plan. My dad was ok with it but my mom. About two sentences in my mom started crying angrily and started screaming at me for id be destroying everything she's done for me. She blames me for moving into this new city so i could attend school year however she never came to me to ask if it even was a college i wanted. I could have been fine with the college back in our hometown but she rushed to move here. She than started to blame my gf for being a horrible influence and that if she has problems she should just deal with it because in my mom's mind. If she gets a job and goes to college when they move with her dad (abusive and has nearly killed them 3 times yet the mom wants to be with him) and she wouldnt see him even if she's living with them. I told her Thats very horrible to say and it was my plan. It isn't because of that. We just want to take the next step even if it isn't very smart and there'll be heavy financial problems. I told her many many times regardless its happening and yet shed scream louder saying no.so She basically forbid me to talk to her, grounded me, took away my phone and laptop which i bought myself, and never let me finish to say all i wanted to say. She is very controlive. She makes me go sleep at 8 (i come from colleg at around 7:40) and enforces that rule by unplugging the router which i paid this month's. I feel like she is extremely hard to deal with and my gf is mad at me now because i won't fight back. My gf started rampaging on how much i let my mom use me for her own convenience. I know she does but im very afraid of her. When she's angry we all think shes crazy. She doesn't reason when she's mad. I know i don't need to have her permission but i dont want to ruin my relationship with my mom. Please help soon. Ill gladly provide more details if asked.

[Skeezyks]

Hello Br1yan: I'm sorry you are having such a difficult time. I don't know as there is much I can offer with regard to this. From what you wrote, it sounds as though, perhaps, you're simply going to have to choose... difficult as that may be. Perhaps some other members, here on PC, may have had some similar experiences they can share, along with how they solved their dilemmas.

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