[lonely and scared]

i have a problem i SI and have told someone close to me i see him like a second dad. he has told me that i should tell my mum and bro that i SI but i dont no how to do this as i am unsure of there reactions.
help me.

[mlpHolmes]

Hello L & S,

This is going to be difficult to do. It's going to be hard on You, your mum & your brother. I am a SI also & had to tell my family. I have some suggestions that may help ease your situation. If You feel comfortable perhaps you could ask your close friend if he would help you tell your mum by being w/you . He can help create a gentle, empathetic environment for you to tell your Mum. She may be extremely upset, & have different feelings afterwards, as she tries to understand your behavior.

I suggest finding a therapist or counselor for you? Can your close friend/Mum help you get one? It's necessary L & S. You will get through this. Many ppl care @ You LS, get us posted here at PC on how you are doing.

Warmest Blessings,
Holmes

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[DoggyBonz]

It's hard to tell anyone about SI'ing much less your family. Depending on your situation it might be best to have another person there. A few years ago I finally had to tell my dad that I was SI'ing. I was flying to California in the summer and there was no way to avoid it.
What I did do was have some research on hand written by professionals so that he could learn more about it and how to help. If you are open to therapy that could be a great place to start not just to tell your family but to get the help that you need and deserve.
I think the most important thing when telling someone about what you are doing is that it is an open discussion and you are able to talk about it and come up with some solutions so that they don't feel helpless. They are going to be concerned because they care about you and are going to want to help you stop while still understanding why you are SI'ing.
Parents also tend to blame themselves and that is what my dad did. He wanted to know what he could have done differently to prevent this. In my case he spoke with a professional and found ways to support me.

The most important thing I learned was that I was really ashamed of my actions and letting other people know about the secret helped me reach out when the urges were the strongest.

Shame is very powerful, please don't let it get in the way of you getting the help that you need.

[BeautifullyMistaken]

Very helpful tips here. I've never told my Mom about my SI, although I have thought about it. Not sure exactly how she would handle it. I would also suggest (as mentioned) having a friend help you tell your family. I would like to do that as well, to make it easier...But I don't have that person I confide in anymore. Therefore, I've never spoken of my SI. *hugs* Good luck! Keep us posted.