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Nov 24, 2010, 11:48 PM
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Whilst sitting in Biology 30, I happened to glance over and check out forearms, which is a habit for me, as a cutter, it is almost automatic to check other peoples arms out. This senior, one year above me, had cuts ALL down his forearm. My heart litterally stoppped, started, skipped a beat, then broke. It was the most emotional thing of my life. I don't even know this guy but I wated to hug him, kiss his cuts and say, it`ll be fine, i`ll be here for you whenever you need me.
Now whenever I see him I stare at his sweater where his cuts are, I am genuinly concerned for someone I don`t know. I don't even know his name, but my heart aches constantly and my thoughts are on him and his well-being. I just want to tell him, everything is going to be fine because I know you feel alone but I will never leave you. It`s only really frustrating because I have never actually looked at this guy in my life before and now my heart aches for him. What do I do? and most importantly, why am I feeling like this for a complete stranger...??? |
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Nov 25, 2010, 06:27 AM
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You know exactly (or very, very close) how he suffers and you want to give him what you want for yourself? If you at the point where you are unable to meet your needs this makes this even stronger because when you cannot meet your own needs the second best thing is to meet the exact needs for someone else.
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Nov 26, 2010, 02:08 AM
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Confusing :P but makes TOTAL sense. Thanks a lot I really appreciate you making my jumbled brain set into place. I wish I had a brain to make sense of things :P
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Nov 26, 2010, 02:42 AM
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We all started out in the same place. The journey IS making sense of things and we all needed others to give us insight so that we could make sense of things.
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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Nov 26, 2010, 10:15 AM
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I've felt, or am feeling I should say, exactly how you are. ;+)
It's hard but maybe you could go up to him? Try and get to know him possibly? It worked out for me pretty well and now I've ended up talking a few people out of cutting for a while :-) Hope all is well, Ebpm (virtual safe hugs) |
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Nov 26, 2010, 06:12 PM
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He's a senior tho, and he's really tall, and he has friends.... i think at least. He acts like i did when I self harmed quite often, wearing sweaters, then arms close to the body. But im too shy to say hi,and it intimidating and i dont know what his reaction would be and I dont want him to think im invading his privacy... its so complicated over NOTHING.
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Nov 27, 2010, 12:33 AM
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I know the feeling, that you just want to help someone so bad, to be able to tell them that you know how it feels and that you understand. Now just to be able to get the courage to actually say that to them..
 maybe when he's alone. walking outside maybe? hmm.P.S love you 
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Nov 27, 2010, 02:09 AM
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How about contacting him of FB first?
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Nov 27, 2010, 01:30 PM
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I did contact him, I made a fake fb account and I told him it was fake also, but i confronted him... let's see ow this goes :/ Im so nervous I feel like I could puke, I know its not my real name but I feel like he knows its m even though he prolly doesn't... Uhhg
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Nov 28, 2010, 04:20 AM
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Let us know what happened.
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