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#1
Nov 26, 2010, 06:43 PM
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I am so disapointed with my self. i have just gone to high school, i am with none of my friends from my old school so i have been force to make new friends i haven't told them about my past with SI cos i dont want them to think i am wierd or want them to act differently around me. But yesterday i found myself cutting again because i get picked on by this guy. one of my new friends saw my scars and asked how that happened i just said its a long story and left it there, i dont know whether i should tell these new friends or not any more. I am scared of there reaction what if they start to hate me.
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#2
Nov 26, 2010, 08:26 PM
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Its hard to relapse after a lng period of time i completely understand i havent in two years and found myself last month going back to cutting. No one is perfect and there will be days when you mess up dnt be so hard on yourself thats what i and is still learning to do. As far as your new friends you dnt have to tell them anything unless you want to. If you feel as of they will hate you and not be your friend anymore because you cut yourself then they were not true friends to begin with. They may have to be educated on this topic to probably understand it if they dnt know already. But like i said you dnt have to rush into telling them.
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#3
Nov 26, 2010, 09:31 PM
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SI is something very personal. It doesn't have to and shouldn't be a burdon you carry alone. However, it is something that should, in my opinion, only be shared with those who need to know (family, T, Dr...) and those friends who have weathered some storms and proven their loyalty.
Let the friendships develop. If you have doubts or need to ask then it might not be time yet. Most of my friends SI and most did not tell me until after we knew eachother at least a year. Sometimes I knew before they told me but respected it as it is their story to tell or not and only when they were ready. If they are true friends it won't matter when you tell them. Now may not be the time to test things by sharing something so personal. |
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#4
Nov 27, 2010, 02:12 AM
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Do you want to talk about this guy who is picking on you? I teach a bully program to kids that really works if you want to talk about it.
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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#5
Nov 27, 2010, 07:29 PM
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i would never wanna talk about him, he thinks he is althat when all the girls thinks hes a jerk and still hes the 3rd most popular guy in my section
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#6
Nov 28, 2010, 04:35 AM
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How about talking about how he affects you so you are talking about you, not him? The kids that I have taught this program to, the bullying stopped.
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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#7
Nov 28, 2010, 01:47 PM
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(((((((vampyre)))))))
Earlier this year I started again after 6 months, I know how tough it is when you've stopped for so long. You can stop again, it will be hard, but nowhere near impossible. As far as the situation with your friends, try to think of it this way. With your old friends you can still talk to/text/hang out with them outside school, and you have an opportunity to make new friends. It's hard talking to people about things like SI especially for the first time, but you dont need to tell them, and you definitely don't need to if they're not really close friends yet anyway. If you're being bullied you need to tell someone. Especially if it bothers you so much that you SI. No one has the right to bully another person, someone needs to stop this guy.  I hope things go well for you, and PM me if you ever want to talk.
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#8
Dec 01, 2010, 04:15 PM
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well, now i f-ing have to tell her cos geting dressed for pe she saw all the scars up my legs. how can i make it less hard for her to understand??
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#9
Dec 02, 2010, 09:32 AM
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in order to make it less hard for her to understand just come out and be completely truthful if you want her to know and if not then don't tell her anything just act like nothing has changed....
but you should always strive to help yourself.... i've relapsed multiple times right now I'm on the recovery route again. Its been almost 4 months. just stay strong and keep your chin up you can do this 
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#10
Dec 03, 2010, 10:45 PM
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Like Omers said, SI is your own personal issue. You shouldn't feel the need to bring people, just because they are your friends, into your personal issues if you don't want to. If they see your scar tell them exactly what you said and leave it at that. It is none of their business. Until you feel 110% comfortable with telling them you shouldn't. Until you know they are your friends, through anything, don't tell. I wish you the best of luck and my heart goes out to you.
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