[ballet_girl]

Somebody wrote in a post that there t had told them that she self-harms as well. It made me really curious...my t has never given me any reason to believe she has done any type of SH but I really want to ask. I think that it would make me feel more connected to her if I found out that she did, like maybe she understands more than I give her credit for. But then I feel terrible because I wouldn't wish this on anybody. What do you think? Would it be inappropriate to ask? How would you feel if your T told you that they had?

[Ebpm]

If you feel it would help you to ask, then I say go for it!
It's a t's job to help you, and get you through this so there is no need to feel uncomfortable.

I think I would feel more confident about having them, yes but even if they didn't, I would still be thankful to have them as my t. ;-)

[Soul Quake]

Yes it's inappropriate. I think that is crossing the line from professional relationship to almost a platonic one. What's with the need to connect on such a level, anyway?

If a therapist told me that, I'd feel she was being too personal.

[lily99]

I understand your curiosity around this. I personally believe that clients are free to ask anything in a session and it's the therapist's responsibility to maintain the boundaries. So if you feel the need to ask, then ask. But be prepared that she may decide it's not in your best interests.

take care

[vampyre love]

i asked but i was 10 at the time and i felt that if she had never SI how would she know how it feels. if you want to know and feel the need to just ask

[hopefully21]

If you feel like you want to know go ahead n ask but be prepared for your T to poss tell you that its not impt rather they have or havent s.i.

[MorganGray]

Ask her if she has every had self distructive habits and how she personally coped with them. That way you are asking for advice and it seems less intrusive, however there is nothing wrong with asking a therapist whatever you want. They will usually let you know if they dont want to answer.